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Baby dads new gf

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XoxoNicole · 13/08/2024 02:21

Hi so I am due soon I'm pregnant my baby's father got a new girlfriend jus the other day. It's been alot of drama and he's inconsistent and unstable all he did my entire pregnancy was cause fights and use the baby as a weapon to upset me. I recently blocked him bc he said he didn't want my son as a newborn and when he found out he wasn't welcome to the birth he wanted him overnights on weekends I'm simply not comfortable with that bc he's literally a new baby and the dad's unstable...I have alot of fear and worry of what is going to happen. I have offered many forms of visits I won't settle with those overnights. Anyone else been in a similar situation? Also he doesn't even ask about the baby so I'm just really confused....

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Chucklit · 13/08/2024 02:28

Don't allow him to come to the birth. Don’t put him on the birth certificate. Give baby your surname. You can still claim child maintenance. If he wants to he can pay £200 odd to take you to Family Court but he won't be granted any real access rights to a newborn baby, especially if you're breastfeeding.

XoxoNicole · 13/08/2024 03:03

Oh for sure def not allowing any of that I got treated like crap!!!

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XoxoNicole · 13/08/2024 03:05

I am gonna file for custody tho bc there is something he could file and take my son which scares me

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Hucklemuckle · 13/08/2024 04:53

Breastfed babies can't be taken for long by anyone.

XoxoNicole · 13/08/2024 12:50

Exactly and I am planning on doing that since I'm a single mom and Formula isn't cheap

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verywellbehaved · 13/08/2024 16:26

Have you met the new gf? You say he met her the other day so I hope she's not going to be introduced straight away and be helping with the baby over night while still a stranger to the both of you.
I would offer him visits at first so he can bond with the baby and if that doesn't suit him keep him blocked until he goes to court, chances are he won't bother and will cooperate.
Build up to overnights overtime but absolutely not at this stage and not with a stranger who neither of you know.

XoxoNicole · 13/08/2024 16:34

I haven't met her no they just started dating not even sure she knos he's having a baby in 3 weeks. We don't get along or talk at all. I am gonna file for custody when my sons born I've offered visits to his dad. He's insisting on overnights as soon as he's born. He is unstable so I'm just not comfortable with that seeing as my son can't walk or talk :(

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MeTooOverHere · 21/10/2024 02:32

"He's insisting on overnights as soon as he's born."
Well he can insist all he likes ...

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