Mental health in pregnancy.

[Lauren1999]

I am 8+2 today and really struggling with my mood. I had a miscarriage in January and one back in May and then after this my other half’s sister passed away and my mum was extremely poorly in hospital, I’d taken on a managers role in work and have been struggling massively with low mood, anxiety and stress. We decided that having a baby this year wasn’t right for us anymore after the awful year we have had.
6 weeks after this decision I found out I was pregnant again and I was instantly filled with dread. I’ve had bleeding on and off between weeks 4-6 and early pregnancy unit put me on progesterone. This is the furthest I have ever got in pregnancy and I’ve even been able to see my babies heart beat but I’m struggling so much with low mood, I don’t want to leave the house, I’m anxious all the time, I’m shouting at my other half. I just really want to be able to enjoy my pregnancy but I physically and mentally can’t I just feel so lost, so scared that something is going to happen and so stressed all the time. Is this normal in pregnancy? Is this hormones or is there another issue with my mental health?

It is very normal OP, especially after the history you have. I was exactly the same and didn’t truly start to enjoy my pregnancy until I could feel her kicking as that constant reassurance everything was okay.

That said though please speak to your midwife about how you are feeling, there is support out there for you x

I would contact your gp and see what they recommend. I was on anixerty med at the start of my pregnancy came off them as I was poorly and starting back on some new ones today to make sure my mental state is right for when baby comes x

Your hormones are raging. My MH was terrible from around 6 - 11 weeks. Be kind to yourself, it will settle down.

I'm so sorry @Lauren1999 after the year you've had and the losses, no wonder you're feeling so anxious and down. As others have said definitely speak to your midwife and GP about talking therapy and/or medication now, and I'd ask for extra monitoring for your mental health from the midwife team. It sounds completely normal and understandable but not something you should have to suffer through alone.

Thank you for all your kind replies. Some days really are harder than others every day feels like it’s going to slowly and I’m just so anxious all the time that something is going to go wrong or something bad is going to happen. I would really love to be able to enjoy my pregnancy but unfortunately I don’t think that’s going to be the case x