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Ex moved out today, struggling massively

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Faithless04 · 09/08/2024 21:31

Hi, please be kind.

Today my ex-partner is moving out of our family home. I’m 4 months pregnant and have two children aged 2 and 4. I am devastated. I know it’s for best, he has not treated us the way we deserve and I’ve tried for years to make it better and I just can’t. It doesn’t stop me feeling so awful though.

I can’t believe this is my life. That I’m in this situation where I bring three children into the world with separated parents. Where I go through these pregnancies and babies alone or previously with a shit partner who stresses me out. He’s much better now and is very hands on. He hasn’t explained properly to kids and I am in bits thinking about it. They adore him and how how HOW do I tell them daddy won’t live here anymore. I feel broken, like I’ll never be okay again and I’ll never find a way out of this. I feel like they’d be better off with me gone and him here, they probably like him more than me at the moment.

There are money and debt issues too. Not to mention my car won’t fit three car seats. I feel like a spectacular failure. I tried speaking to my mum but she doesn’t get it. Someone just offer some kind words or something because I am feeling so hopeless right now.

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NotbloodyGivingupYet · 09/08/2024 21:34

Oh sweetheart. Not judging at all, and can't think of anything to say to make it better, but I am sending a (( hug )) xx

Kellyaust · 09/08/2024 21:42

Ok first of all you're not a failure, as you have said by the sounds of it you have tried for years to make things right...so you've done all you can even at the cost of your own happiness. It will be hard to begin with, but the kiddies will come around eventually especially if they see mummy is a lot more relaxed and happy (which you will be if the relationship hasn't been working) kids feel everything they will feel the tension between you both so maybe it's best for them if you separate. It may seem so rough right now but you will come out of it a stronger and happier person. As for the car I'm sure the 4 year olds seat can go in the front passenger side? Keep strong mama you got this 🙌

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