7+5 weeks pregnant and worried about miscarriage

[Beclou88]

So I am so worried I have previously had miscarriage at 12 weeks 4 days I had a my scan at 13 weeks this is how I found out however now I am 7weeks 5 days and constantly obsessing over losing my baby and watching my symptoms so close, I woke up this morning feeling good not as tired no sickness no sore boobs I called the hospital they have agreed to scan in 3 days however I can’t stop thinking or obsessing I have seen so many posts that say loss of symptoms suddenly is bad news and prepare for a amisscarriage has this happened at all to any one am I over thinking but I don’t think I am

It’s very common for symptoms to vary, mine varied a lot through first trimester. Wasn’t much different when I had a MC and in my current pregnancy. Unfortunately can only wait and see, hope it’s all fine

I was worrying about this the other day as I had really sensitive nipples and tender boobs and I woke up the other day and it was totally gone. Was badly freaking myself out. Had a scan the following day and it was totally fine and since then my symptoms have returned anyway!

Hi OP @Beclou88 I really feel for you and it’s awful but nothing anyone says can make you feel better. I used to say (and still do at 20 weeks) - the only thing that’ll help is seeing them on an ultrasound 24/7.

What did help me slightly was the pregnancy after loss app and there’s also a pregnancy after loss book where you read a page a day. It’s by Zoe Clarke Coates.

I had some private scans at weeks 8&10 that helped me too. It’s been hard from my dating scan not to have any private scans. I could’ve, but I’ve really tried to sit with the anxiety. As hard and uncomfortable as it is.

You will get there. The anxiety never truly fully goes away, but each day you will get stronger. I promise. Be kind to yourself. Pregnancy after loss is the single hardest thing I’ve ever done. Be proud x

Also OP just to add @Beclou88 my symptoms came and went all the time in the first trimester and filled me with worry. It’s completely normal. I get cramps etc too and that always worries me. But it honestly is normal. Horrendously scary. But normal x

@ToeBeans24 thants me too Thankyou so much xx

@ToeBeans24 i had a scan today all is good I just have a cyst thanks so much to this group

Pleased your scan went well.
I think after miscarriage, it's so easy to be anxious about every little thing and reading into everything.
I'm not even 7 weeks yet and constantly on edge convincing myself something is wrong - my symptoms like yours vanished for a few days but then got some back.
The sensible side of me remembers this from my first child that symptoms would come and go in the first trimester but the crazy irrational me just can't stop worrying.

@Beclou88 what a relief. I’m so happy for you. I remember my dating scan was during a period where all my symptoms seemed for reduce and in a way I’m thankful as it did help with the anxiety. Now I have next to no symptoms at 20 weeks but I trust they are fine as they were before. It’s so scary and deffo not an easy journey but I’ve found just believing and trusting my body has helped x

@ToeBeans24 im so relived she said everything looks perfect and healthy nice healthy heartbeat i was literally shaking so much she told me to breath so thankful for today and Thankyou xx

I think it’s so scary cause you just don’t know what’s going on inside your body and your mind plays tricks on you feel loads better now and slight embarrassed about the amount of tears

Like PP's have said, it's sooo common for symptoms to be on and off and to switch up suddenly. I'm so sorry for your previous loss 💛 im in the same boat, I'm 7 weeks exactly today after a previous loss and I'm weirdly coping okay, I'm just telling myself it's one day at a time. We got this xxx

@Shahhhh I know trying to tell my self it’s a new pregnancy I just need to try an push on its just harder said than done been trying to keep busy too your amazing for getting in with it Iv never had anxiety about anything before but this has been an eye opener for me for what other go though I never though it would be this bad

To be honest, I have been searching any pregnancy after loss threads which could help me to reduce the fear and anxiety since I got my third BFP three days ago. I had a MC (6 weeks and 1 day) this March and a CP (4weeks and 6 days) this May so it is scary to see two lines. Right now I don’t know if I am going to be obsessed with testing hcg in the future. At the moment, seeing the line progression helps temporarily. It has only been a short while and I can already see the potential of gradually increasing anxiety. That is why I am now looking for anything to manage my anxiety if it gets worse. I have downloaded the pregnancy after loss app and the audio book recommended by ToeBeans24 and I hope it will help me. I am not going to worry about the symptoms because each pregnancy is different and it makes sense that they come and go. But I will do a scan when I am 6 weeks and 5 days. Seeing the heartbeat is definitely reassuring for me. It still makes me feel a bit sad that I didn’t see the heartbeat for my first pregnancy. I was so looking forward to it. I hope I will be lucky the third time. Fingers crossed for everyone who is experiencing anxiety like me. I also think we should trust our body but it is difficult to do. I will try my best to trust my body even thought it got rid of the second pregnancy for me.

@LucyCL there is a thread I'm on that I've found extremely supportive and helpful maybe take a look if you've been looking for one like that.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5127417-bfp-after-recent-loss-thread-2?reply=137088960

I will also say ladies don’t beat yourself up for doing tests. I tried to stick to every other day to see progression but still did between 15-20. People thought I was mad but I needed to do it x