Coping with bump size comments

[ToeBeans24]

Eugh sorry in advance about the rant.

I’m 19 weeks pregnant. In total I’ve gained 2lb. My pre pregnancy BMI was 25 so slightly overweight and a size 12.

Im getting so so SO fed up about comments on my bump. It started quite early and has continued.

People saying im showing quite a lot and am I sure there’s only one in there! Some even saying I absolutely must have my dates wrong.

I try to brush it off but I’m at the stage now where I come away from these encounters and actually cry!

I love my bump and I’m annoyed it’s effecting me. I had a previous miscarriage so I’m so happy to be carrying this hopefully healthy baby. Why do people feel the need to comment.

I don’t know how to respond or deal with these unwanted and unkind comments. Please help!

This. This was just 'conversation' a few years ago, now it's body shaming and offensive. People are pleased for you,just smile and nod.

Oh dear OP, you might need to prepare for more comments, and more 'wit'. Develop a thicker skin - or some cutting repostes.

I remember at 7 months being described as a battleship in full sail, and my boss, on seeing me after he'd been away for two weeks, said 'F*ing hell, you're huge.'

I was a size 10 before pregnancy, BMI was 22. I had a fairly standard 8lb baby, and pinged back into my jeans 10 days after the birth. I was NOT huge by any means.

People just feel the need to comment.

People.dont know how upsetting it can be. I'm 32 weeks so possibly two months to go and people keep saying, oh must only be a few days now, you're huge!

One lady said with confidence that I definitely had the wrong due date and wouldn't e surprised if baby arrived 6 weeks early.

Leave them to it.
I'm just happy my baby is healthy. It's #3 and (99%) the last so I'm trying to enjoy these last weeks!

Good luck OP

It wasn't acceptable before and it isn't acceptable now. I'm glad people have started calling people out on this.

Just because you are pregnant doesn't make it fare game to make rude comments in someone's body . If you want to make conversation, just say something along the lines of 'you're blooming', ask how they have been finding their pregnancy, have they got everything they need yet for the baby. There's loads of none (potentially) offensive conversation starters about pregnancy you could use.

At almost 37 weeks I've got sick of people's rude comments. I've found it hard to stand up for myself though when people just walk past and make comment. Someone who repeatedly told me 'you're massive' I did end up telling off and she hasn't made comment since! I think a good come back if someone tells you you're huge is 'yeah it's almost like I'm growing a baby in there!!'.

You will probably find one person tells you you're huge, the next person will comment how tiny you are. People just don't know what they're talking about.

God people get offended by everything these days. The comments never bothered me - I've had 3 babies.

It was the ones who wanted to touch that I disliked, but even then they were harmless really.

You better get used to the comments, because they will be never-ending when your baby is born, and growing up! Just block them out.

I'd be tempted to bore the shit out of them every single time...

"Well of course there's a baby which is currently weighing X pounds, then around 2lb of amniotic fluid, the weight of my uterus which is currently around 500grams but will eventually be around 1100grams.
On top of that there's the placenta which is another 1.5lbs, and I've upped my blood supply from 6 pints to nearly 8. And let's not get started on the milk production and fat stores..."

Just make them feel really awkward.

Yes yes yes YES!!!! Well said 👏🏻

it’s not about taking offence easily, it’s being well mannered and knowing what is and isn’t acceptable to say to someone