2 kids under 1 year??

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I gave birth to my first child back in April, making him 15 weeks now. After trying for 6 years with no luck due to PCOS he’s our miracle boy. Due to my previous fertility struggles, I genuinely believed we’d struggle to conceive again. I chose not to go on contraception due to the fact my hormones are completely imbalanced due to my PCOS, and strongly feel adding synthetic hormones into the mix wouldn’t be good for me, especially when coming off it etc. I found out yesterday I’m pregnant again. Clearblue says 3+ weeks. I’m absolutely crapping myself. My Flo app says it’s estimating me around 6 weeks. Me and my husband have both said of course this baby is a blessing and that’s just our life path, but we can’t help but feel sad for our son. He’s still such a little baby as it is, and I don’t want him to be pushed aside in any way. I don’t really know what to do or how to feel. At this point I just feel sad, but I know I shouldn’t and it’s selfish to feel that. Has anyone else been in this position and if so how did you get over the sadness?

If you decide to keep the baby, there’s not really much you can do, you kind of just get on with it.

I had my daughter in May 2021 and the birth was awful. My spine was punctured by an anaesthetist and I spent the first 5/6 weeks recovering from my procedure to rectify the issue. My bonding wasn’t great with my daughter as I was having therapy for the trauma so there was a lot going on!

When she was 12 weeks old I found out I was pregnant again. Couldn’t go through with an abortion but I was incredibly stressed at the fact that I’d be welcoming home another baby when I’d just recovered (very irresponsible on our part tbh). I had DS in April 2022 and unfortunately, due to loads of issues, had had a long stay in NICU. Of course I felt even worse now that I spent all my time in the hospital and not with my daughter.

It was a shit show if I’m honest but you just deal with it. My situation is different due to the complications which you hopefully won’t have to experience. You find a way to make time for both of them and I’m sure your oldest will never be left behind. It’s not easy at all but you got this!