Is this depression or normal

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34 weeks along and I feel so...flat. I've been crying since Saturday and I can’t snap out of it.

The catalyst was DH sleeping in the spare room on Friday night because of my snoring and then woke up telling me how amazing he feels, how well he slept and then proceeded to plan an entire Saturday without me. We had a big argument, I couldn't believe he was about to get in his car and leave me alone all of Saturday. I've had to WFH full time for the last 4 weeks and I'm so alone, and going loopy and he knows this.

Pregnancy has been hard work, third trimester even harder. I'm extremely bored but also too tired and immobile to do anything.

Work has not been great about my pregnancy and I'm incredibly stressed.

I'm terribly sleep deprived which isn't helping (itching from cholestatis plus hip pain plus bathroom breaks, I basically can't go back to sleep after the 2nd bathroom trip of the night).

I have no friends to talk to at the moment.

I'm not originally from the UK, my mum is really sad she can't visit me until after baby comes so I don't want to worry her.

Is my sadness justifiable? Or is it hormones, or depression and is there anything anyone can do. I have a consultant because of complications and a c section scheduled at 39 weeks but I'd be too embarrassed to call and ask for help. Would anti depressants even have time to work?

Honestly OP I think these are really normal feelings for third trimester, especially when under stress with work and not having your mum close by. My baby is nearly 4 months old now but I remember feeling like this during my third trimster as well! I was bored and wanted to do something but was too tired and sore to actually do anything, I was absolutely exhausted but too uncomfortable to have a nap or get a good nights sleep. It’s easy to feel resentful when your partner’s life isn’t impacted in the same way but really try not to. I know it’s hard but there’s going to be plenty of time once baby is here where you need each other and as long as he is otherwise there for you there’s nothing wrong with him having a Saturday to himself now.

Good luck x

My god the itchy legs drive you mad don't they!!! It will be over soon. Hang on in there. I can't give any constructive advice re the relationship but just focus on you and anything you can do to make you feel good- nice baths, any self care you like and can afford, fave food, good books, get out in fresh air if you can, seek out positive advice on the Internet and try and avoid doom scrolling. You'll have your beautiful baby soon. Research baby groups in your area to meet new friends too xx

God bless OP. I think this is normal too but it won’t hurt to speak to your GP as they may be able to offer advice and support. I’m 30 weeks and in similar pain - sometimes it helps to wallow and have a little cry. Never underestimate the power of your hormones and the fact your body is working pretty hard at the moment. I know some people bloom during pregnancy but please know not all of us do and you’re not alone in that. Sending solidarity and an un-mumsnetty hug 💐

Thanks all! Logically I know you're all right, but it feels like an out of body experience sometimes where I can rationalize it but can't snap out of it.

If I knew someone who was going through what I am, I'd be shocked and very sympathetic but I somehow can't find that sympathy for myself.

I finish work in 2 weeks and hopefully that will help.

Financially it's not great for me to be off for that long without pay and we planned for me to work to my due date but honestly I just can't. I need to put my out of office on and let the place burn.