Measuring behind... looking for similar stories *TW loss*

[Bb542]

Hi everyone,

So by my LMP, I should be 8+5 weeks pregnant. 2 weeks ago I went for an early scan, when I was supposedly 6+4. At that scan, only a gestational sac was seen and it was measuring 5+3.

Today I went back for a rescan and there is now a yolk sac and an embryo (no heartbeat), but measuring only early 6 weeks. The midwife said it's normal not to see a heartbeat at this stage but I know it's not great.

I had a miscarriage a few months ago and the midwife said my cycles are probably all over the place since then, but I know I can't be that far behind.

So I know I'm very likely dealing with another miscarriage here, but just looking to hear from people who've been in a similar position? And how it turned out?

Thanks so much x

Not been in a similar position. My concern would be if you measured 5+3 at your scan 2 weeks ago, and only measuring 6 weeks now, even if your LMP isn't accurate, there hasn't been as much growth as you would be hoping to see, as you'd be hoping to measure somewhere in the 7+3 range 2 weeks later. Have they offered you a repeat scan in another week or so to see if baby is still developing? Wishing you the best of luck

Yeah, exactly. I've very little reason to hope. I've a rescan in 10 days. Thanks for getting back to me xx

@Bb542 I'm so sorry that you're going through this, especially after your recent loss. I've been in that limbo place before and it's just the worst feeling, not knowing whether to hold on to any hope or not. Thinking about you 💜

Did the sonographer or nurse seem concerned? If they were, usually they'd set you up for bad news, to make sure your expectations were set. As Mumlife mentioned, unfortunately I'd be wary that you've only had a short amount of growth in 2 weeks. Although foetal poles can develop at different rates. Do you have any ideas about when you ovulated? Are they getting you back in for a follow up scan?

I do think it's not uncommon not to see a heartbeat at 6 weeks. We didn't see one at 5+5 in my current pregnancy, but then did see one a week later at 6+5 (although dated at 6+2).

So sorry that you're going through this. I'd say to hope for the best, but expect the worst. That's what I did when I had an MMC back in April and it did help a little. It's a horrible feeling, but I remember the bad news coming as almost a relief after being in that horrible limbo place for over a week.

Just noticed you said you have a rescan in 10 days 💜

As above its not unusual to not see a heartbeat at 6 weeks, but its the growth trajectory that would be the concerning thing really, and is what would make me wary of bad news. Wishing you the best for your rescan, I know those 10 days will feel like forever so do whatever you need to get through the wait.

Thank you both so much. I really appreciate it. I was doing ovulation tests for about a week during my cycle and thought I had a peak but it wasn't very high.
Regardless, I should be way ahead now so I'm telling myself it's a miscarriage and if a miracle happens then I'll be so happy.
This is my second miscarriage in 6 months and I've only just turned 30. If/when this is confirmed as a loss, I'll be referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic. I never saw myself in this position. Just wish I knew why...

Keeping everything crossed that the pregnancy continues for you. Its horrible when life throws a curveball, but so many people these days needs some assistance with conception (we thought all we would need as a same sex couple was IUI with donor sperm, but didn't work for us and ended up on an IVF journey, and it can all work out in the end if you do end up having to go down assisted conception routes x)

I had an early scan to rule out it was ectopic (due to lost of pain I had in one side) it was around week 6 and even though the heartbeat was there they told me I was 5 weeks not 8 (I don't know where they got that 8, because I clearly said 6, anyway) and even so they didn't seem concerned. A week later I had some spotting on my underwear (3 brown spots) I called and they seemed not concerned. I hadn't done my 12 week scan (it's the 2nd of August) so we'll see then... But it's not all lost, at least not yet. Just try to think positive. I know it sounds bullsh** but sometimes it helps to ease the mind. At the end of the day it's not your fault.

In my case, my bf and I delayed having kids for a lot of reasons (we still feel in our 20s in our hearts) and found ourselves 2 years trying without any sucess. Tbh, I think I had a miscarriage during this 2 years as my period came unexpectedly and more abundant than usual. Anyway, the thing is we did lots of tests and nothing major wrong with us but still no baby. We were funded by NHS for IVF and after the first consultation and some more tests I got pregnant naturally (out of the blue) I am 38 (39 in Oct) don't let anything, ANYTHING, make you think your cause is hopeless. You can have kids, you are still young (I wish to be your age again with all I know now) honestly. I thought I couldn't have kids, I thought I had an ectopic pregnancy i thought.... And anything turned out what I thought. I'm afraid of losing it, of eating something dangerous for the baby and create a problem to it/they. But when you are trying your best you cannot be hard on yourself.

I wish you the very best in this world, all my wishes and hopes are for you and your baby. If this fails maybe they can find what's the problem and solve it. Better now than when you are my age, honestly.

Sending you an honest big hug. Xx