Sending myself totally insane because I can't feel it moving

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

I'm 18 + 1. I'm sure I started feeling it move last week. On wed it was much less frequent, and since then I haven't felt it move.

I am literally panicking myself into craziness. OH has monday off so he suggested we go to the GP to hear the heartbeat, I want to but I also want to put it off til the scan (2.5 weeks) in case it's bad news and I don't want to hear it. Crazy huh!

Please can you guys tell me when you first started to feel baby number one move regularly? I've read that 18-20 weeks is normal, and that it can start with the odd flutter and gets more regular over time. Please reassure me that's what is going to happen to me?!?!?!

I felt dd1 move at 18 weeks, but then nothing for quite a few days. I think that's fairly normal. Some women don't start to feel regular movements until after 20 weeks. Try not to worry. It's up to you whether or not you go to your GP for reassurance, I think you probably should as 2 and a half weeks is a long time to worry.

It does sound normal to me - your baby could be facing the other way and the very small movements you could feel before will be lost on you. I didn't feel my first baby move till about 19 weeks. I WOULD go to the gp to put your mind at rest though - or on second thought contact your midwife for advice and reassurance.

This is my 3rd pg and I could feel occasional movements from about 14 weeks.

But I could not feel it everyday until about 20 weeks.

Do not panic; baby is still there, but movements are so teeny they are easily missed. You may find if you sit quietly and relax without distractions you may feel those little flutters again.

Pretty soon you'll be starting a thread about how painful and annoying all those hefty kicks are getting!

baby could have just moved and you might not feel it again until 22 weeks! Get the heartbeat checked, but this happened with both of mine and is very normal.

Thanks people. I hope you are right. I'm just panicking as I had mmc at 18.5 weeks last time so this is just bringing back feelings that are spiralling. I know this preg has lasted a lot longer than the first as it was def ok at 16 weeks so it's not the same as the last (died at 13) but I'm going insane!

I didnt feel any thing until 20 weeks at least with all my 3 pregnancies, try not to worry. Contact your midwife if it bothers you that much. Hopefully she will be able to give you the reassurance you need.

Very sorry to hear about your late m/c. I now understand why you are worried. I think you have every right to go to your GP and ask to hear the heart beat in these circumstances.

It depends on where your placenta is positioned as well and your bubs preferred position. Don't panic, but if it is no hassle to go along and hear the heart beat - do so. Don't go mad - stress hormones are no good for babies .

sorry kat, x posts. Its totally understandable that you are worried, I would definately see your midwife for some much needed reassurance. I think that once you hear the heartbeat you will be able to relax a bit.

if it is any eassurance I had lots of scans with my twins - and one side in particular I could see the little blighter doing back flips on the scan but couldn't feel anything.

I think it has a lot to do with where the placenta implants as to how much you feel.

Definitely get the midwife to listen for the heartbeat if you are stressed though - given your previous experience.

Sorry to hear about your MMC. I'd go and hear the heartbeat for reassurance. Your hospital may have a day assessment unit open over the weekend so you don't have to wait ages.

I felt both of mine early but not regularly. The baby is so small that it can't kick powerfully and it has to be in a certain position to be able to make you feel it. It will be kicking away but you will only feel it from time to time.

Hope you get the reassurance you need shortly. Take care.

Thanks all! Should I try to get a MW appt or GP? GP is guaranteed on mon if I say it's an emergency...

Given your previous, I think you need tp be seen to put your mind at rest.

I'd say GP as long as they have a doppler at the surgery. Make sure you explain you've previously miscarried at 18 weeks and you are very worried.

Kat, this must be an awful time for you. Make an appt with MW/GP for a listen in on the heartbeat. If its any re-assurance, I really didn't feel anything regular till about 22wks. Not only did I not recognise the little movements as this is my first, but the 20 wk scan showed the baby in, to put it simply, the wrong position to be feeling any real kicks. He/She's still in the same position but its size now means I can't miss any kicks or squirms. This time will come for you too, I'm certain. Stay positive and make that appointment!

Thank you everyone. My GP is very understanding so I know he won't mind doing it for me. You have made me feel loads better though. I feel really reassured. Thank you!!!!!

Phew xxxxxx