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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

How do I tell him?

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Lauren2809 · 09/07/2024 18:44

So a bit of background. My period has been all over the place this year, to the extent that I thought I could possibly be going in to VERY early early menopause (I’m 32 in two months). I had a period at the beginning of January and then nothing until the end of April. I put it down eventually to increased exercise, hormones etc. Anyway from then I’ve had 4! In the last 2.5 months… or at least what I thought was 4.

I’m also living overseas and have had to start a new contraception in this time but due to the periods coming more frequently than before (I was always regular 28 days) I never completed a full set of pills and were stopping and starting all over the place.

Anyway, here I am with so many pregnancy symptoms 2 weeks after having a very light bleed - what I assumed was a light period but having googled my many symptoms 100 times am starting to believe was implantation bleeding. And panicking that I may have had another unplanned pregnancy (see below) and I’m so scared to tell my partner who’s pretty sure he doesn’t want another (however jokes about another every now and again!) in case he thinks I’ve planned this without his approval.

Our first son - who’s now 5, was conceived unplanned - I was on the pill but had been quite ill, sickness etc and everything just seemed to line up time wise to fall pregnant. My boyfriends initial reaction at the time was freaked out and confused as to be expected but within a week of the news he was so buzzing for it.

We’ve been together 12 years, have a pretty solid relationship and a good life! I just don’t want to mess everything up if I am pregnant and he doesn’t want it. I don’t even know how I’d feel about it. I resigned myself to the fact we’d probably just have the 1 child over a year ago!

How do I approach this?!

OP posts:
BeautyAndTheBump1 · 09/07/2024 19:18

Have you taken a test? Are you pregnant?

SantasRubiksCube · 09/07/2024 19:36

First things first is to actually take a test, you might be overthinking this when your not even pregnant. Secondly, if you and your partner aren't on the same page about having another child, I'd rethink your method of contraception as it doesn't seem to be one that works for you if this is possibly the second unplanned pregnancy while taking it (although not very consistently)

Ilovebees · 09/07/2024 19:38

Girl take a test first before you start panicking .

Lauren2809 · 09/07/2024 20:23

I was on the contraceptive patch after having my son which worked perfectly and had no scares. However I’m living in India now (for work) and it isn’t available here. Hence reverting back to a (local) pill. I’m going to do a test to put my mind at rest!

OP posts:
cherrybl0ssom5 · 10/07/2024 13:55

my suggestion would be start sharing your symptom/concerns with him from now, so he can almost get used to the possibility & then if you are in fact pregnant it won’t be straight out the blue. it might even start a conversation about it all, good luck! x

SummerSummeySun · 10/07/2024 14:06

Why were you starting and stopping the pill

I've recently gone back on the pill and the first 3 months I had a bit of irregular bleeding I just carried on taking it could ot just be your body adjusting to the contraception?

And take a test, and discuss with your DP if your wanting to have a second baby?

LadyDanburysHat · 10/07/2024 14:09

It sounds like you have been taking the pill completely wrong, so every chance that you are pregnant. Do you have reason to think he won't be happy?

Greenflamesburn · 10/07/2024 14:51

Do a test first of all.
Did you tell him about the change in contraception? If so then he should have taken additional precautions also.
It takes two to get pregnant.
You need to talk to him as soon as you know, 12 years together and one DS you should be okay.
Good Luck OP

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