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HELP!! Being pregnant at the same time as family member

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Livingmydream25 · 06/07/2024 11:31

All the advice needed. I'm pregnant at the same time as a family member, just a few weeks behind her. She will share with me her little weekly milestones from her app, but then if I share what my app says (we are using different apps so sometimes the info is different) she gets really upset, will tell me I'm wrong and then not speak to me for the rest of the day. I'm not sure what to do. I want to share this journey with her, we have always been really close but anything I say, even when I told her where I hope to give birth, seems to cause upset.

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Ifyouinsistthen · 06/07/2024 17:35

To all the posters saying she may have had a miscarriage - what relevance does that have to this? I ask as someone who’s had several miscarriages. I would understand if she was not pregnant and experiencing someone close being pregnant. But in this case she is pregnant and is happy to share about it. Why can’t OP do the same?

I suspect it’s nothing to do with pregnancy loss and more to do with her wanting this to be “her” time and not share the limelight with anyone else. Whatever the reason it is childish, petty and weird. I would call her out on it. If she didn’t stop, I would ask her not to share updates with me. If she asked why I would tell her it was upsetting, her updates were wrong and then not speak to her for the rest of the day. Basically do exactly what she’s doing to you!

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BabyFedUp445 · 06/07/2024 22:23

Stop sending updates! Cool it a bit. She will ruin your pregnancy if you let her.

Beware as we had this in our family - brothers had kids about 3 months apart. 20 years later the poor "kids" are still being compared!

WetBandits · 06/07/2024 23:23

I’d hazard a guess that she is a bit jealous that she won’t be getting the whole family’s undivided attention for long before you have your baby!

There’s plenty of love to go around, just try to ignore her negativity and enjoy your pregnancy and baby. Congratulations 🩷

NarnianQueen · 07/07/2024 06:57

The whole thing sounds crazy, just say "That's great!" and let her be.

Just to be clear though, she sends you the info about what her app says about her pregnancy then you send her... what your app says about your pregnancy? Or hers? (As you're 4 weeks apart) Because if she's sending you a message like "my app says my baby's started xxx this week" and you say "actually my app says your baby can't do that until xx week" I can see why that would be annoying!

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