6 weeks scan.. twins!! Sickness!

[Kt1704]

Hi ladies.
i have had yesterday a 6 week scan at EPU. they offered me one as I have only one ovary & tube so they want to check for ectopic etc

We found twins! 😍 Two strong heartbeats and measuring within my dates of just over 6 weeks. So looking positive so far!
I want this pregnancy more than anything, we planned it.

I have been feeling so sick and so exhausted since 5 weeks which I have been prescribed anti sickness to get me through the working day!

I really cannot help but to feel so deflated and sad. It is definitely coming from how tired and sick i feel. But brain is only focusing on getting through the day at work and ‘surviving’ that I cannot feel happy or positive. I’m really struggling ahhhh!!
Last night I did not sleep a wink as I was worry how my life with twins will be and all the struggle!
I am so grateful to have these bubba’s growing inside me and it is everything I want so why do I feel like this . How do ladies actually work feeling like this.
Am I being weak ! 🥹

Congratulations! I can't comment on a twin pregnancy as I've never had one, but for most women the sickness does end. For me personally it went away after 16 weeks both times, but it wasn't as constant as it was in the earlier days. I found weeks ~8-10 the hardest then things died down a little as placenta took over.

Congratulations op!

Hope work can make some reasonable accommodations for you.

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/work/maternity-and-parental-rights/check-your-maternity-and-parental-rights/rights-while-pregnant-or-on-maternity-leave/rights-while-youre-pregnant-at-work/#:~:text=Paid%20time%20off%20for%20antenatal,re%20entitled%20to%20maternity%20leave

Congratulations. I had horrendous sickness when pregnant It will ease off but for now rest as much as you can, drink lots of fluids and eat little and often. It's worth mentioning again to your midwife if the anti sickness meds aren't working.

Congratulations! Early pregnancy is HARD. I felt vile until 10 weeks then slowly started to function again (singleton pregnancy).

take it easy and take time off if you need to.

Thanks ladies for you messages. I’m at work now with hardly any sleep. Don’t finish until 6.30 and vomited already. I work in retail everytime I speak to customers I feel even more sick haha! I’m walking round like a zombie. But at the same time I don’t want to complain or moan as I’m so grateful for this!

Congratulations! I have no experience with twins but my god do I remember that feeling so well. Honestly only time in my life I have actually felt close to what i can only describe as being depressed, my pregnancy was also planned, we took quite a while to conceive so it was absolutely wanted but feeling like that all day every day is fucking hard and no one prepares you for it. And honestly I didn't really find anything that really helped. It does pass though and for me the labour and newborn stage was a breeze compared to how you feel just now. Unfortunatley I think it is just trying to get through each day and rest as much as you can when you're not at work

Twins are the BEST- congratulations!

Discovering you're pregnant with twins is a huge shock though, and they do seem to intensify the physical impacts on your body. You will probably have them a few weeks earlier than a singleton, and the first few months are unbelievably hard.
But you will gradually realise how brilliant it is- not only do they bring that special bond and (more than) double joy, they actually become easier than one baby because they keep each other company so are less likely to be lonely or bored. You will also develop Twin Mum superpowers so nothing will faze you again in life.

In the meantime, if you are feeling unwell and tired, it might be worth letting your employer know earlier than the traditional 12 weeks, even if that feels like tempting fate- because you might need the understanding and reasonable adjustments to kick in sooner.

Be kind and gentle on yourself OP. Two things can co-exist - you can be happy and excited and also feel awful at the same time. And if the awful feeling is overtaking the joy, it doesn’t mean anything is wrong, it’s just easier to notice as it’s physical.
Do you have any annual leave you can take to give yourself a bit of a break?

@WaftherAngelsthroughtheskies

Thank you for this lovely message 😍
I appreciate all your words and they made me smile! Yay I’m actually smiling haha!

I have already told my work, as I’m part of the management team for the store, I run the busy store along with 3 other ladies so I thought it is best to tell them soon as I felt so unwell as I have many responsibilities I’m struggling to do. So I know I can call and take a day off and they will understand, but it is that I want to avoid doing! 🤞🏼

@PiggieWig Thank you lovely! It is like a rollercoaster. One second I’m so excited then the next I start to feel dreadful. So many weeks to go…
I just took annual leave a week before I found out I was pregnant, I have another week from 29th July so just counting down the days till then now!

@middleagedandinarage Exactly that! I feel depressed but why! I suppose the news of twins has also shocked me! Im walking around work speaking to myself reminding myself to smile and be happy 😂 I was also thinking if I can barely cope now I have a long way to go! So nice to hear the newborn stage felt like a breeze. Hopefully for me too!

6 weeks is very early. Hopefully everything carries on ok and that you feel better soon. Twins are brilliant though.

Op I had twins and my sickness lasted until week 32. It was tough as I’d be sick 10/15 times a day. I kept getting admitted to the maternity ward due to being dehydrated.

Get a dentist appointment if you are being sick and try and wash your mouth out every time you are sick as it plays havoc with your teeth. I was having them three monthly through pregnancy and the year after.

And rest and rest more.

I breezed my singleton pregnancies but twins floored me.

Congratulations. I have twins, they're 14 now.
It can be challenging at times especially in the younger years. As with any young family.
However, once they're older it is brilliant- so many benefits. You never have to find 2 separate age appropriate activities, they have some one to start school with and when we go on holiday they go off together and make friends while we chill at the bar.
It's fine to be happy an scared at the same time, I felt like that for the first 2 years of their life.

I had horrendous nausea and vomiting and was lucky enough to have a midwife trained in acupuncture which didn't take it away but at least meant I could cope. Between acupuncture sessions I wore sea sickness bands on my wrists which did help.

@Yippiddy Yes I know 6 weeks is very early. Which is why I came on here to make a post for some nice messages to give me a push as I know I have a long way to go. But thanks

@Choirreality Aww 32 weeks! When did it start for you, also very early? Luckily I’m not being sick as much as the medication give to me does work with the sickness, so I really hope it doesn’t get worse or the medication continues to work! I’ll keep in mind about the dentist as I didn’t think of that at all! Thank you!!

@KezzaMucklowe Aww sounds lovely with all them benefits! My partner is a twin so he understands the twin relationship! We only wanted two children close in age so hopefully if everything works out then it is perfect I suppose! :)

@Kt1704

I went to my doctor and told him I believed I was terminally ill. Had morning sickness with singleton pregnancy. But with my twins (I didn't know it was twins at the time) after 3 weeks of being unable to get out of bed, I literally crawled to the car, DH helped me stagger in to the doctor's and said through teary eyes, "Martin, I think I'm dying." I had to keep running to the doctor's loo and vomited three times in the 15 mins before he saw me.

My nausea stopped around week 16. And after that it wasn't too bad.

Twins are utterly amazing and don't pay too much attention to the scare mongering and the "oh my gooooood, twins, poor you". A lot of it is jealousy from those types. Luckily most people aren't like that, but it's the ones that feel the need to be that way that tend to stick in your memory.

What I would say, is when they are born and people say "is there anything I can do?" Say yes.

Let people come round and hold one while you feed/change/whatever the other. I found saying to people, what I'd really appreciate is a nice lasagne, made them feel very useful and it's honestly a game changer in those first few weeks not to have to think about dinner.

Get your mum/sister/best mate/someone you trust to take them out for a walk, even if it's just to the end of the road and back 10 times so they never leave the vicinity, but you get a chance to wash your hair or finish a hot cup of tea.

People are fascinated by twins, and rightly so, they are awesome. So let people come round and be fascinated, and helpful.

If I could change my single DC to twins I would in a heartbeat, they are honestly a privilege.

Great advice from @StopInhalingRevels , as is the suggestion by @Choirreality to see the dentist through your pregnancy- I think it's the demands on your calcium deposits to brew up babies' bones that depletes your teeth.

Congratulations OP! Morning sickness can be horrible. With both pregnancies I felt past myself with anxiety at how sick I felt. I haven’t had twins but DC2 really tested my nerves because I felt so incredibly sick, constant nausea and it was despairing by the time it started to ease. So I really feel your pain.

My advice, and I do understand why you may not want to do this, is to have a confidential conversation with your employer. I ended up telling my employer at 8 weeks second time around because I was struggling to get through the day. I know it is early days but rest and hydration (plus anti sickness tablets) are the main thing you need right now. If work commitments are stopping you from doing this please consider telling them and asking for some short term adjustments.

Congratulations on your twins! I've only ever had a twin pregnancy so nothing to compare it to, but was really exhausted at times in the first trimester... you're not just cooking one baby but TWO! Remember you have great rights at work now for pregnancy and any sick leave doesn't count in your normal sick leave when you're pregnant so if you have to take time off because you just can't work, that's ok.

You will get more energy back! When you feel up to it, join some twin groups online, join twins trust (so much useful info and discounts) , join your local twins group for your area- people often sell cheaply/give away twin things so save yourself some money! You don't need two of everything so don't panic. You will be ok and it's the beginning of a crazy adventure x