Early pregnancy fear

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I found out I was pregnant at 8 dpo after ovulating pretty late (CD19) which was 4 days after my positive lh test - I know this as was temping so was concerned about how good the egg would be anyway. My lines seem to be progressing well (I think) but I am soooo so worried about an ectopic. I’ve had 1 mmc and 2 cps and no living children currently so super paranoid. Firstly, because I got a positive so early (got 1-2 weeks on Clearblue digital at 8 dpo) and I’ve been dizzy on & off for a couple of weeks now. I also felt incredibly bloated after eating today and it lasted all evening then I had a bit of a stitch type feeling on my right side and feel like I’ve had twinges on that side quite low down (groin area) all day. I’m on progesterone pessaries so worried I won’t bleed on them so won’t know if it is an ectopic. Am I being irrational or does this sound worrying? So gutting that any pregnancy ignorance has been taken away with the recurrent miscarriages 😢😢 the panic takes over any enjoyment at the moment…

Anyone please??

It's difficult to relax when you are pregnant after losses. You sound very stressed about it and that's not good for you. I know it's easier said than done but you really can only take it day by day and if it doesn't end well then deal with it at that moment instead of deciding already in advance that something is wrong again. Right now if you could just take it day by day and make sure you are taking pregnancy vitamins and relax as much as possible. I personally went for the early assurance scan once I reached 8 weeks of my pregnancy to ensure all was fine at that point. Until then I just concentrated on other things to stay sane. Good luck!

You've had a difficult history and being anxious is completely normal, but there's not much you can do at this stage apart from watch and wait. Given your history, they may let you have an early confirmation scan, and it may be worth contacting your local EPU when you book the pregnancy to see if they can do this. However, some twinges can be a good sign and can be a sign of implantation and things getting established in there. Similarly, bloating is completely normal. If you have significant pain, contact your EPU straightaway. You have the progesterone, so that should be doing its thing and helping to prevent miscarriage. I assume you are otherwise doing all the other recommended things - getting on a good quality antenatal vitamin with the correct levels of folic acid, vitamin D, B12 etc?

I understand you are chewing yourself over because you are worried and anxious and really want everything to be ok, but try not to let the stress and anxiety take over. Try not to google every minor symptom that you encounter and go down the expecting the worst rabbit hole. I recommend that you book in to see your GP and see if they can refer you for some mental health support with managing this through your early stages, and mention it when you book the pregnancy as midwifery may be able to give you some more support and/or consider a referral to perinatal services.

Twinges, bloating etc are all normal. It’s just your body adapting.

I know it’s easier said than done but try to relax as much as you can, it’s not good for you to be anxious and worried.

It’s so tough, but what you described sounds very normal, I was very bloated and have had cramps throughout first trimester. I am pregnant after a loss and I tried to focus on each day, remember I couldn’t change anything. Luckily I’m 28 weeks now