Weight gain journey- can anyone here relate?

[Soon2under2]

I'm looking to hear success stories, get some hope from someone who's been through something similar and is now "out of the woods". I need it for my mental health because I feel like I'm the only one in this particular situation. Basically I have been slim, active and healthy all my life with a consistent weight of about 55 kg prior to getting pregnant with my first, who is now 16 months old. I went up to about 85 kg by the end of the pregnancy and could only lose 10 kg during my 9 months post partum. I was EBF and apparently, my body was holding on to the fat to feed the baby. I stopped breastfeeding at 9 months post partum when I found out I was pregnant again. By that time, I weighed 75 kg. I'm now 34 weeks pregnant with this one and up to 95 kg. I will easily go over 100 kg by the end of this pregnancy, which is double the weight I was not even two years ago. This sounds insane to me. I plan to breastfeed this one as well, because I do believe in the benefits of it and my babies come first. The strange thing is that my diet is very healthy (although sometimes I do have cravings) and I managed to stay pretty active until the third trimesters, that's when I start to get pelvic and back pain and everything hurts. It's just so confusing to gain so much weight, so fast and I feel like I'll never get back even close to my pre pregnancy weight. None of my shoes fit and I haven't been able to wear my rings since my third trimester with my first. It's very depressing and I need to know if there is anyone here at all who can relate and tell me that it does come off eventually. Grateful for any story/ advice!

Similar situation but had my first 8 years ago, pregnant with second.

We gain weight as we age naturally, and I'm bigger than I was at any point when first child was born - this is due to age.

I did lose some of the 'baby weight' but my rings ever fitted me again. This time around I feel I've put on a lot more, plan to breastfeed also. I was told breastfeeding can help you lose weight (no idea if this is true).

Pregnancy does change bodies for good, as long as you are healthy, exercising when you can that's all you can do. Don't beat yourself up about it, you are beautiful no matter what size, your body has made two humans which is amazing.

Try to love the body you have, don't expect to get back to 'pre-baby' weight as it might never happen and so much (not just exercise/diet) can affect weight throughout our lives.

Sorry I can't offer a 'dream story', but what you're doing is fab - keep up the good work and rest of your pregnancy.

Hey! Slightly different scenario as I got back down to 55kg between pregnancies...BUT there will be 3 years between DS and DD. It sounds like you just haven't had the time between pregnancies to lose the weight (not that I am saying there is anything wrong with the way you are). I think you need to have the headspace to be able to do it.

Before DS I was always around 55kg. After DS was born I was stuck at around 65kg for a long time. Then I decided to intermittent fast and to walk to work, which gradually got me back down. DS was 2 by the time I started getting my act together on it though.

Now I'm 32wks with DD and probably back up to 75kg...it's stressing me out, but I think I'll make a plan once she's arrived to try get fitter a bit faster than last time. Maybe you need a plan too? In retrospect, I think it's also about getting a bit of time to yourself for self-care, like going for a walk, hopefully your partner will be able to support you with this? I was very bad at making sure I got this time with DS, not because DP is unsupportive, just because I'm bad at putting myself first.