Pregnancy Announcements - Emotional trigger

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I am very lucky to have a DS who is almost 3 years old who I love more than life itself.

I have always wanted two children and myself / partner are not currently trying as he has some concerns financially / childcare etc. Although I know his points are relevant, I can’t help the longing of wanting a second child still. We’re not getting any younger and I worry we will miss the chance to try. I try and put it to the back of my mind because it’s not the right time but it’s always there. I’m always carrying the longing around with me and it can get heavy.

At the moment, there seems to be pregnancy announcements going on all around me and even when it’s people that I don’t even know that well, I can’t help getting so upset (for days). Don’t get me wrong, I am happy for others but I know it’s an emotional trigger because it’s something that I really want.

Not sure what I expect from this post but I just wanted to offload and see whether there is anyone out there that shares / has shared these feelings before.

I completely understand. I have suffered a miscarriage and find these extremely triggering. You have to protect your own peace and be kind to yourself and if that means unfriending or creating distance then so be it. It may be worth exploring talking therapy or counselling to try and eliminate the trigger for situations where it isn’t possible to distance yourself from the situation. ❣️

100% understand. My SIL announced her pregnancy at a family gathering when I wasn't even trying, but was hoping to start trying in the coming months. Had to go upstairs to cry and then compose myself to get through the rest of the day. Might sound over dramatic (and I had had a few drinks ha) but those feelings around wanting a baby are so irrational.

Two other friends announced before I fell pregnant and each time felt like a blow, even though their pregnancies are nothing to do with me! I get it, it sucks and I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

@Hope1986 Thank you for your reply. Very good advice, you should definitely try and protect your peace. It can sometimes be tricky when you can’t create the distance due to it being a family member or someone at work but I have been considering a talking therapy. It’s something I have done before which I found helpful.

@reabies Thanks for sharing your story with me, this definitely sounds the same as my reactions right now and as you say, completely irrational but it’s just an automation reaction, it’s tough!

@reabies automatic not automation!