Pregnancy after miscarriage

[loopyloos]

Can we talk about pregnancy after a missed miscarriage? How common is it for missed miscarriage to occur again? I’m trying to relax but feel like I’m going crazy not knowing what’s going on in there. I’m 5 weeks 5 days and my previous baby would’ve stopped growing around this time but went undetected for a few weeks. I’m booking a scan for 8 weeks but I’m really not coping. Hoping to hear positive stories!

Hi @loopyloos! I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you’re doing okay 💜

I also had an MMC back in April and I’m now 5+2 weeks, so very similar to you. My baby stopped growing around the 5 week mark too and I didn’t find out til about 7 weeks.

It’s such an anxious time isn’t it? Half the time I feel convinced it’ll happen again and the other half I feel cautiously optimistic and excited. I’m trying to take each day at a time and keep a positive attitude so I don’t fall into a hole of doubt, but it can be hard.

As far as I know, you’re not any more likely to have an MMC if you’ve had one already. The chances are still at 75% of having a successful pregnancy, which are pretty good odds. I find that helps a little to hear, although maybe not quite as reassuring when you’ve previously fallen in the unlucky 25% as we have.

I started a group for those of us who are newly pregnant after a recent loss. Please feel free to join if you’d like to - there are lots of lovely women over there going through exactly the same as us just now 💜💜

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5100762-bfp-after-recent-loss

Oh and I’m thinking of booking a private scan at 8 weeks too!

I know how you feel and I'm not sure I have any wonderful advice but just want you to know your feelings are valid and I'm so sorry for your previous loss❤️

It's so tough! I don't think I coped very well at all until well into the second trimester. I think book that early scan and present to your hospital with any concerns. My MMC was at 11 weeks, just over a year ago. And now I'm 37+ weeks with my rainbow. I definitely found the very early weeks of this pregnancy the absolute hardest. But as the weeks go by it gets slightly easier each week.

I was lucky and had a number of early scans due to my previous loss being partial molar. Other than scans, I listened to a lot of meditation tracks to try to calm and control my thoughts. I would suggest stay off the pregnancy apps and Google, just take each day as it comes. Stay as busy as you can in terms of work and meeting friends etc so you're not sitting around letting it consume you. I think staying occupied definitely helped.

I wish I had better advice but I promise it gets easier and after a certain point maybe 16-18 weeks or so it starts to go by much much faster.
I wish you the smoothest and healthiest pregnancy❤️

Hello, I'm so sorry for your experience. Most calculators don't really increase the odds of a miscarriage until you've had 3. One or two is just 'bad luck'. You can Google the miscarriage odds reassurer or the Tommy's miscarriage tool if you want to see. MMCs are awful but I think they are almost always chromosomal, your body was holding onto and nurturing the embryo but it just wasn't viable. It's cold comfort but still found that a bit comforting. But future pregnancies will always be under the shadow of that experience, that you thought everything was OK and it wasn't.

I had a CP, then an MMC at 8 weeks, then a slightly eventful but successful pregnancy (now 14 months) and am pregnant again but only about 5wks so very much in the woods still!

I had several miscarriages, all before 6-7 weeks along. Completely lost hope of ever being a mum at one point. Had my ds at 37 and dd at 40. It wasnt what I planned or ideal, but it was when it was meant to be I suppose. Ironically the pregnancy at 40 was the one that was problem free and carried to term(ds was an early baby)

I'm 27 weeks now, I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks last year. Everything I've read / been told says that your likelihood of having another MC is not increased by having had 1 MC. it's tough though! staying away from MN, Google etc, did help me - try and keep busy if you feel up to it, enjoy the summer, get outside etc. You can't do or not do anything to affect the outcome.

Hi Op,
I had a missed miscarriage back in 2014 at 10 weeks but went undetected until 12 week scan which was a massive awful shock and I had to have a D&C two days later.

Fast forward to a year later in 2015 I had a perfectly healthly baby boy, then in 2021 I had another perfectly healthy baby boy and I'm now 15 weeks pregnant with baby no. 3.

The anxiety never goes, despite 3 pregnancies later I can still never look at the screen at scans until the sonographer tells me it's ok. But successfully pregnancies after miscarriage do happen more often than not. I wish you all the very best.