Pregnant and split with bf

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hi all, I’m in a very complicated situation and wanted help from other women who had been in similar situations

I’m 32 and my bf of 2 years is 33. Since dating I have always said to him I want children and that if it ever came to me falling pregnant I would not want I have another abortion as I’ve had one in the past in my early 20s and it killed me.

I found out I was pregnant (now 8 weeks) and unfortunately it was unplanned as we both recently lost our jobs.

Both our parents were happy and offered us support however he is adamant that I should have an abortion because we are not financially ready.

he said in the past he would support my decision to keep baby if I ever got pregnant but now he said he can’t be with anyone who is so selfish that she wants to keep baby even tho we aren’t ready financially. I reassured by next year we would have jobs and support of family but he still does not agree.

we needed up splitting up and now I don’t know what to do. Apart of me wonders if I really am being selfish? I don’t know if I have it in me to be a single mum even though in my heart I know I will do anything for the baby .

is my ex right? I’m 32 I’m scared I won’t be able to have kids

Have this baby. It won’t be easy. But you are ready.

Don't abort, you won't forgive yourself. You're not being selfish if you will love this baby and do all you can to give them the best chance in life. Personally, I believe being financially ready in this economy may never be an option for some people. I had my first born at 22, living at home with my parents and unprepared. He's a thriving 6 year old now, with a 11 week old baby sister. Both by the same man, who both times didn't want the pregnancies and encouraged me to abort. Out of panic I believe as eventually he comes around and loves the children unconditionally. Regardless I would have had both children and raised them alone if I had to. You've got this mama

What's stopping him from getting a new job? You are only 8 weeks pregnant so loads of time to become more financially stable and you could even do some temp work to get some money behind you. If you really want to go ahead with the pregnancy then I think you should, it's your decision so don't allow him to guilt trip you just because he's having a meltdown about it.