Pregnant but been drinking a lot

[helenmelon9]

I've just found out I'm pregnant and I can't stop shaking. We already have a 2 year old and have really been on the fence about another, a few months ago we decided to just see what happens. We've just came back from a 9 night holiday and during this time I was really steering over to the one and done. My son is such a delight and I love him so much that it worries me that another could potentially ruin the lovely life the 3 of us have. We only had sex the once while away so I thought chances would be very slim anyway. I never drink at home, but I'd been having 3 cocktails each night whist away occasionally 4 as my son was fast asleep in his pram each night we were making the most of our free time together.

I'm worried sick I've now caused some damage and wondering if it would be best to abort. That's around 27-30 cocktails consumed!! Surely that can't be good. I haven't told anyone yet as I'm waiting for DP to get home but I'm really hoping someone could advise.

I also had some random spotting for 3-4 days so definitely didn't think I would be pregnant. Does anyone know what kind of damage this can cause?

How many weeks are you, OP?
In very early pregnancy, alcohol isn't really a problem.

My last period started on the 31st May so around 3/4 weeks I think? My period was due today

I was 7 weeks when i found out and had been downing long island ice teas a few days before. We were trying but my previous test had been negative and i'd had a period albeit a light one...turned out i ovulated late.

I told my midwife...she said it was the most common thing she gets asked and that early baby isn't taking anything through the placenta so it's fine and don't stress. unless you are binge drinking every night unlikely to have much impact.

Baby was born perfectly healthy

I really wouldn't worry, it's very common. the embryo would have only implanted in the last few days. spotting at that stage is common to.

Thanks all I feel a bit more re-assured now! The spotting was really concerning me as it's never happened mid cycle before. We had sex on the Friday and then I had spotting on the sat/sun/mon and possibly the tues too, this has never happened in any cycle (haven't been on any contraception since my son was born) and it never happened when we were ttc the first time either 🤔

I know someone who went to a party and got really drunk and also had some lines of cocaine, not knowing she was in early pregnancy.

The baby is ten now and perfectly healthy.

I have no medical knowledge but considering the number of women that don’t realise they are pregnant immediately this must be extremely common.

And we aren’t seeing anything like those numbers of babies with health issues (not that I even think there would be).

There was actually a woman posting here recently that had no idea until she was 33 weeks.

I had shitloads to drink over one Christmas/New Year period, much, much more than you, before finding out I was pregnant in the January. Everything was fine.

The embryo isn't sharing your blood supply at all yet. It's still living off its own reserves. Your drinking will literally have had 0 impact, so please feel free to make your decision about going ahead on the pregnancy on that basis.

I read somewhere that the embryo/sac is not connected to your blood supply for the first few weeks so you should be totally fine.