NEW - 6 weeks measurement at 10 weeks - no heartbeat

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Hey,

I know this is similar to a recent thread, but my circumstances are a bit different so thought it would be okay to start a new thread.

A bit of a long story here. I had my last period 19 April and had a positive test about 4 weeks later. I had strong symptoms at 3.5 weeks! I still have strong pregnancy symptoms, which haven't gone away, but have gone in waves.

I have had two losses before (Dec 23 chemical pregnancy, and a termination for medical reasons at 14 weeks due to patau syndrome, as it turned out in July 23). For this reason, I was keen to get seen by a midwife early so I could get my NIPT genetic test. To get this test, I needed a gestation scan.

I had a very tiny amount of bleeding over the weekend that sent me into a tailspin. So, I decided to book a private scan which happened yesterday. At the scan, I measured 6 weeks and there was no heartbeat. There were no discernable features, as if the pregnancy was stopped at 6 weeks.

I have been seen today by the early pregnancy unit. I had expected for them to want to terminate the pregnancy, but they want to wait a week to see if the baby will grow. I feel like this is incredibly unlikely, and just prolongs the heartbreak. I am wondering whether to book a private abortion so that I can move forward.
I just can't see how I would have got my dates wrong as I track my period and ovulation, and was actively trying to conceive.

I am still grieving from my TFMR last year, so my brain is really confused and I am quite heartbroken. My husband and family seem to think it is worth waiting but I feel like the chances are super low. Of course, it would be an amazing miracle if the baby was fine.

Has this happened to anyone before? What would you do in my situation?

Thankfully I do have a counsellor due to my previous losses and I have a session to meet with her today.

I am sorry for you. I think I would wait a week, just to be absolutely sure, even if the chances are low. I don't know if NHS keeps records or not, or if it affects any subsequent treatment at all, but they might frown upon if you go against their medical advice.

Maybe you can try to connect the EPU again and ask them to review your case to ease your mental load.

I am sorry again and I hope that everything turns out perfect, hopefully with this pregnancy or with the next one

I'm so sorry to read this post, OP. You've had such a terrible time.

The NHS always suggest one more scan, just in case.

By the time you've arranged a private termination, it'll be time for the next scan anyway.

I think that if you decide to have a private termination, you'll be plagued with "what ifs" down the line, or your husband will.

It's worth waiting for another scan. Even though you're fairly certain this is going to end in tragedy again.

Hey OP. Sorry for what you’ve been through and are going through but please try and wait. It’s still early and detecting heartbeats that early on can sometimes be tricky. I wish you the most positive outcome x

I had a scan at 5w6d due to a big bleed. There was a gestational sac and that was it. I was asked to come back a week later. I honestly thought that there was no point. However, a week later there was a little heart beating away. I'm 21 weeks today.
I was sure of my dates too, as I'd used ov tests.
I just thought I'd share my experience.

Thank you very much, it is hard to think clearly at this time. I think I will wait for another scan just in case as you say.

Thank you very much.

Oh wow, such a good outcome! Thank you.

Thank you, I hadn't thought about it going on a record.