leaving your first born to have your second born

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I am 40+1 and scheduled to be induced tomorrow and absolutely breaking my heart at the thought of leaving my first born for so long. He will be at his grandparents house and I know will absolutely have a ball but I’m just upset at the thought of leaving him.

not really sure what the point in me writing this was other than to just get it out!

Bless you - tomorrow is a big day and your firstborn is currently the centre of your universe, there are big feelings at play! I hope all goes well!

Aw OP they will be fine! Fingers crossed for you too that it's as quick as possible so you don't need to stay too long anyway. I know people who have gone in for induction for their second or further children, had the pessary and then given birth in a few hours and home that same day. I wasn't induced with DC2 but I was home the same day with them - left home before DC1 woke up early morning and was home about 10pm at night so they were already in bed. But they woke that night and DH went to them so they knew we were home and then I went to see them with baby once they woke next morning. They enjoyed their exciting day with their DGPs and their uncle. A few years on and they barely remember it, I'm pregnant with #3 now.

I found that. I was induced so a couple of days in hospital before secondborn arrived. I missed firstborn so much! I remember him coming to visit me and the nurse shooing him away because she needed to check my blood pressure or something. Fair enough but I remember almost crying and saying "but I've never left him before" (not quite true, but hormones and all that!).
How things change though, teenagers now and I'm glad to get an escape now and then!
Good luck with your induction!

Aw I get that, felt the same. We called it. sleepover to make it exciting and he's desperate for another now! It was great when they met for the first time though, just hold on to that, and know he will have a lovely time and a little sibling to come home to ❤️

I think it's pretty normal especially when you've not had a lot of time away from them. Good luck, I hope it happens quickly for you.

I felt like this too. Such guilt for doing something so normal, it’s natural OP. I hope the induction runs smoothly and you’re back with both of your babies safe and well quickly. I’m sure your little one will have a lovely time x

It’s horrible, I still remember my first Son staying with GP when I had my second, I told them to carry on as normal and come and see me the next evening, but everyone else had visitors and I missed my little boy so much, I had a little cry. When he came onto the ward, he took his shoes off and got in bed with me, made it all worthwhile.

I had exactly the same situation a couple of months ago. They totally understood at the hospital and I was released the next day so only one night away (which was hard enough!) my first born enjoyed his sleepover but was keen to come home to meet his sibling.

Good luck! All will be fine

I totally get this. When I had my 2nd my parents came to our house and DD was asleep. So woke to her grandparents being there.

It was only when I was in late stage labour (maybe gas/air affect). I started crying that she would be going to nursery soon etc. Then her brother was born and all good.

She was perfectly happy and none the wiser we weren't there (she was 3)

And then when we came home she said 'thank you for getting him for me'. The sweetest thing to ever hear.

Good luck and try not to worry they'll be fine

@Libertysparkle that's so sweet, bless her. I remember the guilty feeling of having to leave DC behind to go into hospital but as long as you make it sound like it's going to be something fun and a thing to look forward to they will be absolutely fine. I'm working on baby no. 4 at the moment and I'm actually looking forward to going to hospital for a little break 😂

Just lost some mucus plug so hopefully my hospital stay won’t be as long as I’m imagining!

Ooh good luck.

Totally normal feelings though, ds was just 2 when number 2 was born hadn't ever been away from dh and I, he was totally fine.

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Plan something nice to do just the two of you together when you get home, even if it’s just the park or an ice cream. He will have missed you as much as you him 😍😍😍