Pregnant with 3rd (just split with baby daddy) he wants me to get abortion

[Boymumxxxx]

Not long found out I’m pregnant with my 3rd child. My 1st child is to a previous partner.. my 7 month only baby and this one is to the same man. We have recently split up but I’ve found out I’m pregnant. He wants me to get an abortion and has said that he won’t be involved with this child if I decide to keep it. Really don’t know what to do. I want to keep it but want my baby to have a dad!! I also don’t like the thought of him being involved with our other child and not this one. I am thinking of the effect it will have on this baby seeing him being a dad to my older one and not them. Need some help and advice

If you want to keep the baby keep the baby.
It will be hard with 3 but if you know you will cope go for it make sure he pays CM.

A family court judge would be mightily unimpressed with a father trying to have contact with their toddler-age eldest child while shunning their sibling especially with such a close age gap.

When did "baby daddy" become mainstream??

I don't think he can get away with contact with one child and inexplicably shunning the other. Legally it won't be tolerated.
It's up to you, it's your child. He can be involved in future and will need to be if he's already got one kid with you. But it's your choice. I hope you have family support, and good friends around you?
There's no reason to abort just bc he says so.

Your other baby is 7 months old and wouldn’t remember this guy by the time your baby is born if he doesn’t see him again. Keep your baby and inform the idiot that his kids are a package deal, once the baby is born he sees both or neither, and either way he pays for both. Don’t abort a baby you want because of a man.

It's fucking awful. Totally cringey.

If you want to keep the baby then do. However, I was in a similar position to you and decided to get an abortion. I have never regretted it to be honest. I think it was better for my other children and the dad has proved time and time again how useless he is.

I was 100% a single parent, even when I was in a relationship with him. I thought the abortion would be hard to get over but it really wasn’t, I don’t even think about it unless the subject comes up. I had medical abortion at 6 weeks.

OPs in a difficult position here with her ex emotionally blackmailing her to get an abortion. So why not either advise, or get lost.

He's just emotionally blackmailing you to get what he wants, Op. Tell him to suck it up, they come as a package deal or he can get lost. It's your body, you do what your gut is telling you.

You can keep this baby if you want to, but you should also consider every aspect of this unfortunate situation and don't underestimate the enormity of having two babies to support. Do you have the financial resources to support both children? Do you have the physical and emotional resources to be a lone parent with two very young children plus your older child? What would be the best thing for your existing children?

The decision is down to you. He is trying to control what you decide, probably to reduce the amount he needs to pay.

If you want the baby, you keep the baby.

As others he can't see one and not the other.

I would give serious consideration to an abortion - 3 kids as a single mum has got to be difficult - how will you work for a start?

I think I’d consider my options really carefully. Can you afford 3 children? UC is limited to two so there isn’t a safety net for you and childcare will be extortionate.

Can you cope with or afford a third child? I would be considering the impact on the children you have. A single parent to 3 will be tough