Scared I could be pregnant again...8 weeks pp

[Kellyaust]

I have no idea why I'm posting I know there's no clear answer but to wait .... But ...

I'm 8 weeks postpartum, I have my 4th beautiful girl after a miscarriage at 12 weeks last year. I'm 39 years old and have hypertension and decided I've had enough of putting crap in my body so we decided to avoid ovulation time and use pull out method ..which I know that isn't fool proof...but at least avoiding ovulation I thought I'd be ok...

So I had my first cycle and I thought I'd ovulated, we dtd and my husband finished inside his excuse was it happened so fast n he forgot to pull out... Fast forward to the next day I start cramping so I do an opk and low n behold it's peak so I ovulated 2 days after dtd....

What's my chances of catching that egg? Crapping myself after a really hard pregnancy and failed induction that ended in a c section 😫

Well you're going to have to put some kind of contraception in place op, or risk pregnancy (if you're not pregnant already obviously)

We'll take it quickly then.

Like I said we used avoiding ovulation and pull out method for years and it's worked fine, took us 1 year of TTC to get pregnant with our toddler and 3 months with our newborn, and like I say I thought I'd already ovulated or I wouldn't have dtd at all 🤦‍♀️

Can I ask, gently - why didn't you go and get the MAP the minute it happened? Is your husband putting some kind of pressure on you

@Kellyaust
"I hope so and yeah I agree it was!!! He's been scolded don't worry"

Not sure "scolding" is the appropriate term, to be honest!

You need to be considering whether you want this baby-talk to your doctor about it as soon as possible.

You need to know if you've ovulated not just think you have, sorry to be harsh but it sounds like another pregnancy could make you really unwell and neither rof you have been sensible ( I'd be furious with DH not doing what he was supposed to )
Best you can do is make an appointment with a GP and see what options you have for termination of pregnancy so it's done as early as possible.
Fingers crossed it won't come to that but buy a pack of condoms on your next trip out wouldn't hurt and make him wear it.

I agree I'm not in the best situation, it's not that I wouldn't want this baby it's just not the best timing.

He does pressure me a lot.

I had all my usual symptoms of ovulation that's why I believed I already had.

You've just had a baby sweetheart, he shouldn't be pressuring you at all.

Don't have sex if you don't want it and
even if you do make a condom an absolute must, he is playing around with your fertility and health for the sake of his own selfish pleasure.

But your cycles won't have regulated and you'll still be a bit all over the place. No point lecturing now but if you really didn't want to be pregnant, condoms would've done the job just fine. I'm 17 months pp and don't want to get pregnant so using them!

You may very well have caught the egg, op. Especially as you're 8 weeks pp... You're meant to be more fertile.
Will keep my fingers crossed it's the outcome you want.

You need to stop panicking, and ring the family planning clinic in the morning. Apart from anything else, getting pregnant 8 weeks after a c-section is very risky.
Your uterus and cervix will have gone through massive changes with the pregnancies since your last coil fit. There is a decent chance they will be able to fit a copper coil even with the scarring, and IUDs are very effective in preventing pregnancy. But, you have to do it tomorrow otherwise you will be leaving it too late. You need to put your own heath first and sort this out. You can always get the coil removed in a few weeks time, although leaving it in is prob a good idea.

We DTD the day I ovulated, took the MAP straight after x

Our daughter is 7 months 🫢

Wishing you all the best, OP. Sounds very difficult.

Oops.

I'm fairly astonished you wanted sex that soon after giving birth. I don't say that judgmentally AT ALL - when we are horny we are horny - hormones take us all differently - I know some women like to leap straight back in the saddle, as it were. But certainly most of us take at least a few months post partum before wanting it again.

So my question I suppose is, is he pressuring you into sex my love?

If your answer is a resounding NO then that's wonderful, that's cool.

If he is, then you have an (even) bigger problem than a possibly unwanted pregnancy to try to face up to, my love.

Because nobody in the world should get to use your body like that if you don't want them to.....

Sending support and strength.

A woman who is pressured, emotionally blackmailed, or forced, does.

Coercive control. Thank you

I’d still get the MAP, even if you think yoy
ovulated already. Getting pregnant is not a good idea at all so soon after a C section, could be a big risk to your health. And I can’t believe you’d trust your partner after this, I’d insist on condoms.

Well she has said he's putting pressure on her, he's selfish enough to not use a condom , and who really wants to be having sex so soon after birthing a baby?

Ew