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Fourth child?

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doodee21 · 08/06/2024 18:17

Hi
So I have nearly 1 year old twins and a toddler who is 2 years and 8 months. Something is making me want another baby and I don't know why or where this is coming from but I'm doing pregnancy tests in the lead up of the two week wait after ovulation (tracked on an app called Flo) hoping I'll get a positive. So every cycle I'm in the hope I'll be pregnant with my fourth and I can't seem to stop this feeling. I spoke to my husband and he said he doesn't want another but in the last 5 months there's at least been one or two times every month we haven't used protection. And that's why I've been doing early pregnancy tests. I have been given the contraceptive pill as I requested it but haven't yet taken it cos I thought instead of me keep doing pregnancy tests every month least I'll know there won't be a chance of pregnancy if I take the pill but something is steering me away of taking it. I know I love being a mum and I loved my pregnancies but I've almost become addicted of doing tests every month and it's becoming a problem.

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MaryMaryVeryContrary · 08/06/2024 18:18

What are your finances like?

Sara1988 · 08/06/2024 18:24

This is completely personal and I know others will disagree but for me it's an ethical choice. I don't want to contribute to the effects of overpopulation and I don't think it's possible to raise and educate four children to the level you can with two (or three.)

doodee21 · 08/06/2024 18:25

Luckily me and my husband are at an okay position currently with affordability

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SouthwestSis · 08/06/2024 18:49

Your husband has said he doesn't want another, so I think you do need to have a serious think about taking contraception if that's what you've agreed the plan is, or use condoms, at least until you can revisit the conversation.
Also I would draw up a detailed budget for the cost of 3 in childcare (unless one of you planning not to work until they are teenagers)

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