No heartbeat at 6+3

[Harrjenk]

Hi everyone, not sure what I’m hoping to achieve by writing this but I just feel so miserable. Just went for a private scan having had a positive pregnancy test two weeks ago. Based on my last period I should be 6+3 and there was no heartbeat. I track my ovulation and cycles so don’t feel like the dates can be wrong. I feel devastated. I’m nearly 41 and feel like it’s my last chance. I had to have a termination 1.5 yrs ago due to an abnormality and had IVF 6 months ago that initially got me pregnant but there was no yolk sac at the 6 week scan. I feel like I’m in Groundhog Day. The initial
excitement and then the crushing disappointment. I just want to deal with it now and not have to wait for it to pass naturally.

Oh OP, I'm so sorry 💐If you'd rather not wait it out, you can either opt for medical management or surgical management. Bearing in mind medical management doesn't always work and you may have to go directly for surgical.

Again, I'm so very sorry you're going through this. Please take it easy xx

@VolvoFan thank you. Last time they made me wait about a month until they let me have surgical management. I would much preferred to have had it straight away. I’m hoping I can ask for it to be done quickly this time as it’s a different hospital

Is 6+3 not too early to be guaranteed to get a heartbeat ? I know when I went for an early scan they wouldn't see me before 7 weeks for exactly that reason . I don't want to give you false hope but at the same time seems just a tad early ?

@LizzeyBenett im obviously really hoping it is too early but I saw a private fertility consultant for the scan as I had seen him for help previously, and he was pretty adamant that it wasn’t viable. He asked if my dates could be 10 days out but they definitely can’t be as I was tracking everything

I had a scan last week on what I thought should be 6 weeks on the dot, I measured 5 with no heartbeat or fetal pole. I was offered two options, a scan in 1 week (6 weeks) or scan in 2 (7 weeks). I was told that seeing a heart beat at 6 weeks is 50/50 and if I'm anxious it's better to wait until 7.
I've also read that some people don't get a heartbeat until 8 sometimes!
Is there any reason that the sonographer thought it wasn't viable apart from the heartbeat?

I would hold off for a while, things could change :)

I would assume they didn't see anything at all rather than just no heartbeat, was there a yolk or fetal pole? I had a scan at the same stage as you and there was a sack but nothing had formed inside so they knew it wasn't viable, the sack continued to grow until at 9 weeks my body finally realised and got rid. In my current successful pregnancy we had a heartbeat at 6+5 but it may not have been there a day or 2 before they are so tiny at that stage.
So sorry you are going through this mine have been IVF and it's just heartbreaking when you think you have cracked it only to get that devastating blow.

@orangesunshine4 are you going back next week then? Yeah the sonographer also said there was no fetal pole or yolk etc. My BHCG and Progesterone levels are consistent with a viable pregnancy but they were also consistent with this last time too when it wasn’t viable. I’m going back in on Friday at which point I will be 7.5 weeks

@JRTfan thank you. How long did it take you to pregnant after your miscarriage? Just so worried I’m out of time

@Harrjenk I had the miscarriage in April and went for IVF again in October. I'm 40 and this is our 6th round of IVF.

@Harrjenk yep going back next Friday at 7 weeks on the dot
I did have a yolk sac at 5 weeks however.
I know exactly how anxious you must feel, I've had a mmc and it's awful when you just have to keep waiting until the next scan.
I have everything crossed for you x

@JRTfan wow 6 rounds, congratulations on your pregnancy. Can I ask where you’ve had the IVF? And are you using your own eggs? I feel really confused about what to do next as I know I can fall pregnant naturally but my egg quality must be poor with all these issues im having

@orangesunshine4 thank you. I’m not a patient person and I feel acutely that my time is running out so I just want to have this all confirmed so I can have surgical management. It’s horrid being asked to wait a week when I already know the outcome as I’ve been here before

@Harrjenk we went to Reprofit in the Czech Republic in the end after multiple failed rounds in the UK. We used donor embryos as we knew DH has very poor sperm and having tried donor with my eggs unsuccessfully this was our best shot...1st time was negative, 2nd we had a miscarriage and 3rd time was successful!

Can I just say that just because you are having issues it doesnt mean it's you there is more and more evidence to say it's actually the sperm and not the egg that's the problem it took me 2 years to conceive with a MC at the start turned out it was my partners sperm but with certain supplements and cutting out alcohol and caffeine he had a normal sample in u see 3 months and we conceived naturally the same month we were due to start IVF x

@LizzeyBenett we actually tried iui and IVF with donor sperm which was obviously good quality but had poor results from that so in my case we are pretty sure there are egg quality issues.

Hi everyone, had some very confusing news today. I went back to have my follow up scan one week after the first and the egg sac has doubled in size and there is now a yolk and possible a fetal pole developing. They said it looks very like a 6 week pregnancy. But I don’t think that my dates can be out by that much, so it’s either a healthy pregnancy that is somehow 1.5 weeks earlier than though or a failing one that hasn’t quite failed yet. I’ve got to wait another 2 weeks for another scan.

Dont know what to do with this news. We’ve had a chromosomal abnormality before which was apparently random and potentially age related so I’m worried it’s happening all over again. Feels rough to be given a little bit of hope today as I don’t want to have to go through it all again in 2 weeks time

Hello @Harrjenk I just wondered what happened? I'm in a similar situation. Thank you

@ToysRus56 sorry to hear that. Im
afraid it wasn’t good news and I had an MVA. However I fell pregnant naturally in December (6 months later) and am now holding my 2 week baby girl in my arms. Have you had a scan today?

@Harrjenk Aw congratulations xx I have another scan tomorrow but I'm bracing myself for the worst. Did you have to have any 'management'? I hate that word. We've been trying for a year and I'm 39, just feel so sad it's probably over.

Congratulations. How lovely to finally hold your child.
Good wishes to others going through similar.
This is an old thread but good news is still good news.

@ToysRus56 i had an MVA which is when they remove the miscarriage whilst you are awake using local anaesthetic. I didn’t want to wait for the miscarriage to happen naturally so it was the best decision for me. It’s not nice, but I preferred it to be conclusively over. Don’t give up hope- I’m 42 now, had multiple miscarriages from age 39 to 41 and now had a healthy baby at 42.