Pregnancy fear and anxiety

[littlefox90]

Hello,

I'm just after some reassurance really. I've had 3 major anxiety episodes in the last 3 years. The first time I buried my head in the sand but the second time I got help from my GP and through councilling. I had a shock recently from finding out I'm pregnant. I'm 10 weeks now. This set my anxiety off, which causes a lot of physical symptoms such as constant panic feeling, insomnia, racing thoughts ect so that I can't function. My GP upped my dose to 30mg of citaplopram and reffered me to the peri natal mental health team who said they will call tomorrow with some suggestions but that theydint think I need their help directly. I'm starting to feel a bit better anxiety wise but I'm really worried that these episodes of anxiety will keep coming back then how will I cope with a small child again?

I'm also worrying about having a second child, my DD is 17 now. So this feels like a huge change. Im scared of pregnancy and ultimately the birth. I try to keep myself busy but the morning sickness, fatigue and anxiety means I am currently not at work as I was in the middle of starting a new one. They have been super understanding luckily.

So basically I'm a sicky, nauseated bundle of worry about now and the future and was hoping someone out there had been through the same and also had successful treatment for an anxiety disorder that means it doesn't keep coming back with such force 😢

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Hope you are doing well with this. I have had mild anxiety which was worse after birth but I was told the trick is all in recognising it for what it is and putting it in that box so you don’t get anxious about being anxious.
Sounds like you are doing all you can - get all the support and help that’s out there. But just wanted to wish you well really… sure it will all come back to you when the baby’s here and you’ll breeze through it

Thank you ❤️

Hi there similar situation to yourself my youngest is 10 so when i found I was pregnant i hit rock bottom depression and anxiety peaked always had anxiety to the point i considered my option's knew i could never do that but didnt want to be excited etc for fear of the future. Unfortunately i lost my baby at 9 weeks and am devastated and can now clearly see it was all in my mind again plus hormones if i could go back i would work on reminding myself that the chances are everything will be just fine as humans we adjust to whatever situation we are in and cope replace every negative or fear with a positive as they come know its ok to feel fear of the future but it is no reason to let it overtake your good thoughts control of thought's and it's all in out hands x

I'm sorry to hear that you went through this. It turned out that I had a missed misscarrige 😕 I found out at the 12 week scan and by that time I was feeling better about everything. Currently ttc again x

So sorry its so hard isnt it i felt immensely guilty about the fear i had felt surrounding another 10 year's on but it made me realise it was just what we needed. İ really hope your ok and it has helped you to feel better about the future too x

Thank you, it had definitely been a roller coaster of emotion. I felt really guilty for considering that I didnt want them like I had tempted fate. I have had support though and I know it's nothing to do with that. Just unfortunately something that happens to lots of us 💔 xx

Hi I'm so sorry to read of your anxiety and then loss 💔 I'm in a similar situation in that I have a 10 year old and had 2 losses in 2022. The first pregnancy was a complete shock and I panicked, suffered anxiety attacks and convinced myself the worst would happen. I was very unwell with it all and decided on a termination as I hadn't taken any prenatals, I'd drank alcohol in the weeks prior to finding out and I'd also been on antibiotics not recommended in pregnancy. I just felt the whole situation was destined to end in failure. I was utterly heartbroken and I still am not over my decision. I got pregnant again 7 months later but unfortunately had to terminate again because this baby was very poorly with very low odds of survival.

I'm now 43 and aching for the child we terminated first. We had no solid evidence that there were any issues (I terminated at 9 + 4). I look at my now 10 year old and think she should nuw have a 2 year old sibling. It's killing me.

I wish you all the best in your TTC journey and hope everything works out for you. Can I ask how old you are? I feel like I'm the only one my age thinking of trying again particularly after such a traumatic time 2 years ago x

Hello,

I sorry to hear that you've had such a hard time with your pregnancys and anxiety. I'm 34 but just because your older doesn't mean you can't ttc. Maybe chat to the GP. I've been using premom ovulation tests and the app ❤️
Good luck if you do choose to try again. Thank you for your story and lovley message of support x