I want to be pregnant!

[babytime]

And thats basically it.

Just needed to say it out loud and on here because dh thinks I have gone insane.

Had miscarriage recently, got two beautiful girls and I do appreciate and love them so much but I have a hold inside that needs to be filled.

Went into mothercare today and start looking at baby things and prams... I know - psycho alert!

This broodiness feeling is so overwhelming and I keep feeling my eyes well up - its not right.

How can I handle this?

Dh is not sure if he wants another and he if he does said next year at the earliest.

My best friend is due baby in 4 weeks so this is not helping me, she has not idea how I feel and I want to make sure it stays that way. In fact nobody knows how much I want another baby. I think about it in my waking hours.

I dont know...

I changed my name because I was horrified to know dh knew my name and has been reading my posts. I was so embarassed!!!

I have no advice sadly, but i do know how you feel.

know the feeling - if that is any help at all!

....except for the miscarriage, you poor thing...bumping for you x

I felt like this when I had a miscarriage as soon as you know you are pregnant the feelings and love kick in all the hopes

You need to give yourself time to get over this its a grief that shouldnt be over looked

I would tell DH just how much you want another baby or write this post again in your other name so he can see it

lots of love

I looked at prams and babystuff on-line and in the shops a long time before I was expecting no 3. It is (I hope ) a perfectly valid way of focusing your attentions and assuaging the longing a little. It sounds like you dh is open to the idea of another baby - and I think you do need to tell him how much this means to you. I wonder if he is reluctant in part because of the m/c (sorry to hear that btw) How did he take that news? It may be that he feels you shouldn't push your luck - and if so you need to explain to him that you aren't done yet babywise!

I do sympathise. Our third child was a long time in the planning - ironic as everyone then assumed she was an accident

Good Luck

Nice to know i'm not alone.

I am actually embarrassed by my feelings because most people would be like "What, you mad - why would you want another, your life is so full now, how would you cope?" etc...

Yes it would make my life harder at first like with everyone with a newborn but things settle and you get routines.

DH said before that he wants to enjoy time for us. I do understand because the girls sleep so well now and we have our nights back.

Holding a baby to me seems more important than any amount of sleep.

We need to both want this, I know that.

I've got six years between dd2 and dd3 - I've really enjoyed that gap tbh - nice to spread them out a bit

Thank you everyone.

My mc was very early and so happened around the time of discovering I was pregnant so he does not really feel it happened at all and in fact we have not actually spoke about it.

When I told him I thought I was pregnant he was upset and I got upset because we have spoke about another baby and he said yes but next year. He said its a bad time etc... But no sooner than that my period started and I tested and got two negs and gp said it must have been early mc and dh just said its for the best so I guess he was glad.

I never really got my head around it...

To be honest, this sounds really crazy and I cant believe I am admitting this but I still think/wish/feel I am pregnant to the point I think how many weeks the baby is and think about the due date. I know this will carry on until my next period comes and then I am hoping I will accept there is no baby.

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That sounds really rough - have a {{{{hug}}}}.

Regarding timing though - there's never a good time really - just a time when you decide you'll go for it. I really do think you should talk to dh but maybe leave it a few weeks till you're not feeling so raw and vulnerable. Hoping for happy news for you soon

I know...

I think I need to let him know whats going on in my head.

He might be able to talk some sense into me.

Aww (((babytime)))

I definitely think you should talk about the miscarriage with your DH - he probably doesn't realise how deeply it's affected you. Men don't seem to grasp that a pregnancy is real until it starts to show, move etc., but it's clear that it's had major ramifications for you.

All the best for your babymaking future! x

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I dont think how early you lose a baby makes it any easier please tell him how you feel he might be just as upset as you but doesnt want to say for fear of upsetting you

hello again

i guess if when i found out i was pregnant and we both had time for it to sink in and then a week or two later i lost the baby then it would feel more like a mc and i guess he would feel sad too but because we were told week later by gp that it sounded like a mc. it feels silly to feel upset, like i've made it up?

anyway...

i did mention last night to him that I am so looking forward to trying for a baby next year and he did not really respond.

I dont want to pressure him.