Anxiety ramped up towards end, anyone else?

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I am 35 weeks IVF baby after 12 long years of chemicals and miscarriages (all before 12 weeks) The first few weeks as expected were very tough and I was a nervous wreck, I then had a lovely respite in the 2nd beginning of 3rd trimester where I actually enjoyed being pregnant. Now though I'm getting so anxious again that something will go wrong, there have been no issues with baby at all and she has had a good heartbeat at every check but I'm still panicking every day that maybe I'm not feeling enough movement..I know I can go to triage and get checked but it's like an early scan that only reassures for a short time. Baby is moving aswell I'm just in this constant spiral of thinking I'll wake up in the morning, feel nothing and she'll have died.. anyone else have this or am I just going mad?!

Omg this is me. This is my first baby and I’m 40 in August, thought my time was over. My anxiety has been so bad but it’s getting worse now I’m getting closer to becoming a Mum. I’m 31+4 and worrying if I don’t feel her constantly move. I wake up and shake and poke my belly and if she doesnt move I have a breakdown panicking something is wrong. I have monitoring 2 sessions a week for reduced movements yet I still worry after those. It’s totally normal, we are carrying our precious babies and just want everything to be fine. You’re not alone in feeling like this! I know my anxiety won’t go once she’s here either but we are on the home straight and soon be holding our little baby xx

Have you spoken to your care team? I don’t want to trigger you, but I lost my first baby in labour at term. So my next pregnancy was very, very high stress. I had weekly CTGs from 28 weeks. From about 32 weeks I had weekly scans. We had a very firm birth plan (that then didn’t get executed when I was refused an induction) so I had a (hastily) planned section. Knowing baby was going to be delivered in X date did help my anxiety. I’d strongly suggest you need to speak with your care team and get measures put in place to support your mental health and lower your anxiety.

@ForUmberFinch that's awful so sorry to hear that. Thanks I'm not the level of anxious where I need help I don't think, I'm just conscious we are coming to the end and it's been such a long road it's hard to believe its actually all going to be ok.
I have regular checks and have a scan Tuesday will just be a relief to have her here and safe!

@AimeeLou84 thanks nice to know it's not just me..do you have extra monitoring at your request? I'm having growth scans and midwife every couple of weeks but nothing in between. Obviously if I really felt movements were reduced I would go in but whenever I get to a point of really worrying she has a good old wiggle about and a kick!

Why don't you speak to them at the hospital and they can monitor you 2-3 times a week (a CTG) . That's what I had in the end as kept getting reduced movements and was just good to check he was ok in there! It might reassure you a bit more. Your baby will be in your arms soon ❤️❤️ xxx

Gosh this was so similar to me when I was pregnant. It's all a distant memory now - my daughter has just turned one. I really feel for you because it is awful and so scary. I would advise speaking to your midwife as others have advised, but also remember that statistics are on your side. It is very unlikely that anything bad will happen now and this will soon be a distant memory for you too.

Yes I have a CTG twice a week. So I called triage and said I had reduced movements and I’m worried so they asked if I wanted to be monitored twice a week which I said yes too. They put me on a monitor and listen to baby heartbeat and I press the little button when I feel her kick - I’m on it for 20-45 mins twice a week. You can ask triage to have this monitoring I already told them I have anxiety and it’s my first. Give them a call hun it really helps me knowing I have it twice a week x

Thank you all I have an appointment Tuesday so will ask for extra monitoring then I think. Baby has never had a pattern as such so it's hard to tell what is normal and what isnt.