Reaching for support. Not sure if I should tell dp im having possible MC when he's working away

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Does your DP work away/abroad? WWYD in my situation?

Mine has been abroad since 1st April and will be home finally on Tuesday afternoon

I got my first BFP two days after he left - both over the moon. We were ttc so a very much wanted pregnancy and so happy

I had to go to the gp 3 weeks ago for pain in my side, suspected ectopic but confirmed pregnancy in the right place and still very early so they asked me to come back in 2 weeks for a rescan. I went on Monday and as they hadn't kept a picture of the prev US 2wk ago and they can't see a heartbeat, they wanted me to come back this Monday to compare and hopefully I should be far enough along there will be a heartbeat to see as otherwise it'll be a blighted ovum. DP knows all this and has worried enormously, bless him. We've had a MC before

Then yesterday I was getting light brown discharge only when I wiped a few times over the day (haven't told do this as nothing to worry about yet)
Today it got a bit pinker when I'm wiping and also have stomach cramps, dull pain in vagina and my back is really sore

I do think I'm miscarrying but the scan on Monday will confirm. There's nothing DP can do except be upset and worry while he's away. He can't get to me any sooner and I'm stuck between telling him and not

Would you? Would you want to know? I know he will want to know but I don't know! My emotions are alll over the place I'm sorry for rambling

My mum has taken ds2 for a couple of hours while I have a shower and a little cry and think about it

Sorry you are in this position. If it was me I would probably just wait until you have had the scan on Monday and tell him on Tuesday if the scan confirms anything. There is nothing that he can do to change things and you have support from your mum.

Sorry should have said I'm only bleeding when I wipe but it's getting more red and little clots are passing. I feel like I'm on a really bad period

Thank you so much @Brenna24
I hadn't told my mum I was pregnant until that scan on Monday as I had to keep getting her to watch ds. I'm so glad she knows now as it was already becoming a hard pregnancy and she's really supportive

I think you're right, thank you for replying X

How are you getting on. How did the scan go yesterday?

Personally, I would have told him. DP has been a great support for me during pregnancy and he would want to know. And you're already doing the really hard part, no need to try and protect him from the reality of what you are going through.