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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Feeling so alone and forgotten

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Worried98 · 17/05/2024 00:03

I really don’t know where to start. I have never posted on here before and my spelling is not great I’m sorry.
i feel like life is out to get me.

I am 34f my partner is 40m, so far this year started out great I am 4 months pregnant with my first child my partners second he has a 9f from a previous relationship who I get on with all is good there. Her mother is another story I won’t get into as him and her do not get along and do not speak directly (long court battles), maybe I am just feeling emotional but everything seems to be going wrong.
My partner has a good job but I work around 40-80 hours a week long hours and on my feet because I have always looked after myself and struggle to let people help me. These last couple of weeks have been hard my gran was put in hospital because of a bad fall and they found brain cancer and was going down hill fast. My uncle was acting strangely and was put in hospital where they found rapid frontal lobal dementia so not good there. My parnter has been really stressed with his job and his daughter and where we are going to live (only a 2 bedroom house so we will have to move).
I only get two days off a week and it seems every day I either have an appointment or I am having to be busy helping my partner or helping other people (I’m so emotionally exhausted).

This past weekend we told my step daughter about the baby, she was excited but worried as her mother recently had another baby and we understand she has been pushed out abit at her mothers. Then on Sunday my gran died and it is all very sad but I understand she wasn’t going to get any better, then my partner finally rang the doctors after me nagging about pain he has had for a couple of weeks and now needs a lumbar puncture and they are worried about a bleed on the brain.

I then find out that my step daughter has told her mother about the baby which is fine but she has said it dose not matter as “it won’t be a real sibling” like her baby.

I have everyone telling me how this should be the best time of my life, how lucky I am, how excited I should be. All I am is sad I cry every night my partner is so stressed he dosent have time for me which I understand but it hurts.
I feel like my family is crumbling around me, at work everyone is talking to me about baby’s and baby things but at home there is nothing my partner dosent talk about it (even tho if asked he is excited) I have never felt more worried, scared and tired.
Also to note I have always had a problem with my weight and my partner knows this it has gotten worse since becoming pregnant and my partner is giving my nothing only “your pregnant what did you expect”.
Sorry for going on I just feel like life is out to get me at the moment and I don’t know how much more I can take.
i just needed someone to talk to.

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HellonHeels · 17/05/2024 00:25

I'm so sorry about your Gran, really sad for you. Have you got support from your parents or sublings?

You've got a lot going on. Why do you work such long hours and can you reduce them?

You don't need to move house, the baby will be in with you and your DSD can have the other bedroom.

Sunshine45688 · 17/05/2024 01:47

I'm so sorry, that's so difficult. You are dealing with A LOT.

I don't know what to say to help. I didn't have any of that going on but I will say I never felt so utterly and complety alone as I did while pregnant. It's a really really challenging time and if you don't have that ideal family support in place and you have to juggle work at the same time, it's absolutely shit.I have a lot more sympathy now when I see a pregnant woman. You are not alone.

Remember that pregnancy is a difficult time anyway. You are dealing with things that even a single healthy person would struggle. You sound strong. You have to be - for your baby. You're doing a great job even if you don't realize it yet.

Sunshine45688 · 17/05/2024 01:52

You don't need to move house, the baby will be in with you and your DSD can have the other bedroom.

I agree with this, baby can be with you for a year or two comfortably (that's what I am doing btw!)

Regarding the weight - I also struggled with this, it's very common. I found it got much better when I got to 6 months and I was VERY obviously pregnant. I think at 4 months your waist is just "thicker" and you're puffy and swollen, so you won't recognize yourself in the mirror.

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