Pregnancy anxiety

[pcosgirly]

Hello.

I've just found out 5 days ago that I'm pregnant. The line was there within seconds and the week test indicated I'm 1-2. I took another test on Sunday and the week test now says 3+. I am so excited about this pregnancy but I can't help but feel anxious. I filled out the self referral form for the midwive and was told it would be 2-3 weeks before I hear back. And I am just so anxious that by the time I go in for "confirmation" that I'll not actually be pregnant. Is this normal?

I'm not really sure what the point of this post is. I think I just want to know that how I'm feeling is normal? Tia

Hey hun. Totally normal and unfortunately for me my anxiety only got worse during pregnancy as this is my first. I’m 31 weeks today and it’s been a long road for me but it’ll all be worth it. They’ll ask about mental health and anxiety at your booking in appointment, be honest as they will really help you along your journey. Congratulations and good luck! X

It's really normal, I felt the same way for the first several weeks - and even when you go in for the first midwife appointment they don't usually check whether you're pregnant, they just take your word about the positive test! They will check your bloods and urine but it's not a pregnancy test. So the first time I felt like I KNEW knew was at the 12 week scan because I could see him squiggling around. My anxiety level did fade before that tho so hopefully you will find the same thing. I just tried to remind myself that as long as I hadn't had my period, I wasn't in pain, chances were high that things were okay. And so far so good!

It is normal. It's a weird thing - getting a positive pregnancy test, if you want a baby, is a very very exciting moment. But then, essentially, nothing happens and nothing actually changes for weeks. Most women don't look visibly pregnant for many weeks, you may have minimal symptoms and often women don't tell anyone other than their partner until 12 weeks. No contact with midwives until weeks later. It's a bit of an anticlimax! Hence feeling a bit discombobulated!

Thanks for your replies! I feel a good bit better knowing that it's normal to feel like this. I know that you don't get your first scan until 12 weeks but it baffles me how you are just left for weeks. The positive pregnancy test should ease your mind enough but for some reason just hearing it from a doctor etc would ease my mind.

You could contact your doctor and say you think you are pregnant but you’d like to clarify and they’ll dip your urine at the surgery - could you try that to ease your mind?

The reason you're left without any contact is that there really is nothing for a HCP to do during the early weeks. Unless you have a pre-existing medical condition where you might need to see a doctor if you become pregnant, maybe to change medication or similar. But for most women, it's just really a waiting situation.