2nd year wedding anniversary and 13 months and Aunt flow just came

[SamWalks]

Just looking for anyone with positive stories.

I was two days late and thought maybe this was it. We’ve been trying to have a baby for over 13 months and my period came today. We’re away for our anniversary and just spent the morning crying. I feel soo bad for DH.

we’ve both been tested and everything came back good.

I feel like I’ve done everything and followed every advice.

feel soo sad, and trying to not show it for DH, trying to not ruin our anniversary.

We were about to start IVF when we got out positive. I only tested to tell my body it was okay for my period to start, so I could start taking the meds! Like you both tested nothing wrong!

It took us 15/16 months of actively trying after our wedding. But we had spent about a year trying before we got married, stopping around 10 months prior to the actual wedding, at that time my thyroid was out of whack and had to be removed, so there was a medical reason it wasn’t happening.

It can take up to 2 years for a healthy couple to fall. I won’t tell you to try and relax as it’s impossible. But maybe start making plans for your next steps if it doesn’t happen, the relief of knowing it would be someone else’s problem to get us pregnant really helped me mentally and that’s when we finally fell!

My SIL also took 15 months to fall and again all tests normal. So please done stress just yet, enjoy your anniversary, you never know this may be the cycle it happens ❤️

@SamWalks we were trying for 15 months before I got pregnant, never had so much as a glimmer of a bfp, had all the tests done and everything came back normal and I remember finding the whole thing so frustrating and upsetting, so I really sympathise!

I’m not sure what tests exactly you’ve had but my advice would be to not be afraid to get a second opinion and don’t accept ‘unexplained’ as an answer. The first doctor I saw told me to just keep trying and come back after 2 years and to go for ivf. I found a second doctor - Dr Chapman, who is in London and Beaconsfield, who I would highly recommend - who did a monitored cycle and thought my progesterone looked a bit low so started me on progesterone 1dpo and boom, that month I fell pregnant. Could have just been a coincidence and it does just take some people longer than others but she was very kind and empathetic and we had a good plan in place if the progesterone hadn’t have worked.

I would also recommend a HyCosy if you haven’t had one yet as apparently that can flush out your tubes and give you a bit of a fertility boost - I heard lots of success stories from that and I also fell pregnant the 3rd cycle after.

Good luck with everything!!

Thank you both.

you’ve honestly made me feel better.

I has a hycosy around three months ago - was hoping it would do the trick but obviously no luck.

My progesterone came back at 43 (Day 21) they said it showed I ovulated.

The only test that was low was my AMH: 11 and that was even moderate and was told this does not impact natural conception. Husband had top notch sperm (consultants words) he was pushing me to go down IVF route, as I’m 35. But I wasn’t ready and wanted to try for the full year.

I haven’t heard of monitored cycle, what does it entail exactly?

Hi OP! I’m starting IVF very soon as I’m 36 with an ovarian reserve of 5.2. That’s very low for my age and very low in absolute terms. I probably have up to a year before I’ll need donor eggs. The reason for pushing for ivf if you have low ovarian reserve is that ivf won’t work as well if you have low ovarian reserve. So starting sooner while you still have some time before it gets lower is recommended.

Your reserve isn’t as low as mine but low reserve is a great reason to try ivf if you’re in a place to. Your post made it sound like the consultant was just being ageist because you were over 35. I think they were giving good advice based on your ovarian reserve though. At least your DH’s sperm are top notch! My DH is in the bottom 2% in terms of morphology so we need Icsi to inject the sperm into the eggs! At least you can do normal ivf.

I hope you get pregnant soon and that you enjoy your anniversary. You still have a great chance of getting pregnant but ivf could maximise the chances, especially with such great sperm to work with. Good luck!

Ah I know exactly how you feel. We started trying immediately after getting married, give or take, and it took us nearly two years, without even a sniff of a positive, before I finally got pregnant with our now two year old! I remember a mate of mine sending her scan photo on our first wedding anniversary and I just cried and cried. It’s so hard. I have pcos so that was our main isue really. I went super low carb a couple of months before our BFP, so whether that helped, I don’t know for sure, but it was a bit of a coincidence if not!
Clearly I’m a glutton for punishment as we’re just over two years into ttc#2 (we started ttc within a couple of months of having DS) and nothing, so that’s fun 🙃

@SamWalks so basically a monitored cycle meant I had an ultrasound scan on day 5 of my cycle (just to check everything looked good) and then I had another scan on day 10, day 12, and then day 14, and then basically as soon as my follicles / lining looked ready then I had a HCG injection to make me ovulate at a very specific time so I knew exactly when to have sex. I then took progesterone from 1dpo - my progesterone results had always come back borderline (about 20-25) but I had a feeling my progesterone was dropping early because I always had spotting for 7+ days before my period. My AMH was normal for my age/even slightly on the high side, and I knew I was always ovulating, so I think I just needed a bit of a boost. I think given your AMH is on the low side I would be tempted to go back to your doctor (or a new one) and ask what your options are - eg could you try letrozole first to give your ovulation a boost? You should ask check FSH levels and AFC as high FSH/low AFC along with low AMH can also be a sign of poor egg quantity, in which case I think you are more likely to need IVF…?

Tried for nearly 2 years for DC1, and I was pregnant again with DC2 when they were four months old, without trying, even though I was breatfeeding. I'm not sure I even had a proper period between giving birth and conceiving again as I had bleeding on and off for that whole time.

A friend and her husband tried for at least five years, got tested and he had low sperm count. Decided to try IVF but she got pregnant just before. Then flood gates she got pregnant twice after, last time three months after giving birth to her second!

Hi all thank you for your time to give me some advice and sharing your experiences.

I am not too concerned about the lower AmH as I know that’s not the reason why I am
not conceiving. My cousin had a really low AMH of 5 and had 3 children back to back in her 30s naturally.

Tbh I think I’m ready to go to IVF. I don’t think my mental health and I worry my relationship can take anymore of the anxiety and monthly worry

Hi all,

Just thought I’d come back on here as I hated reading these posts and never finding out what had happened. It’s funny 12th May was my last post on here as that is also the last first day of my period 🤣. I had a positive pregnancy test a few weeks after this. Currently 32 weeks pregnant and expecting our little boy. All natural.

Anyone in the same boat as me, I really don’t know if I did anything different I did start ubiquinol about 4 months before. Also had my tubes flushed 3 months before this. Or maybe it’s all a coincidence. Sending anyone struggling positive thoughts and prayers x

Congratulations. You must be so excited - not long to go now ☺️

Congratulations! I had ivf but it ended in a miscarriage! So happy for you. Sending best wishes xx