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Induction canceled :/

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relly1 · 11/05/2024 10:13

To feel very defeated and sad:( , I'm 36+2 weeks today I was supposed to get induced today but I knew I wasn't going to as the talk I had with the consultant yesterday made me feel very much pushed away. My waters ruptured and have been ever since 34 weeks I've been in hospital for a week with reduced movements and pains etc. they sent me home with steriod shots and antibiotics till today I was supposed to be induced. I felt very pressured by the consultant yesterday she was telling me why can't I wait till 37 weeks etc. when it was the doctors that booked it for me.. she also made out like I was lying about my waters to the point she asked me to pull my leggings down there and then and show her my pad.. then telling me she couldn't find my booking which I had to point out myself to her on her own computer. I have adhd and anxiety so when they rung me this morning they started with " the consultant mentioned they're might be no beds didn't she" so I knew she had put her little input across , there's not enough midwives to accommodate my induction today they will try tommorow. I'm annoyed as I've been told so many different things by so many different doctors , one told me to get my partners paternity to start Monday as he can't take no holidays due to it being a new job and him taking all his holidays while I've been in and out of hospital I have 3 other children at home so he's been taking care of them. I have a feeling there going to keep doing this till I'm 37 weeks which will be a whole week wasted of my partners paternity, I'm very fed up :/

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relly1 · 11/05/2024 10:14

Hi mentioned the ADHD and anxiety as with my ADHD when something happens disappointment is a lot more worse than with someone that doesn't have ADHD , I'm laid in bed crying and feeling really down I don't want to talk to anyone it's pathetic I know I can't help it unfortunately

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kiwiane · 11/05/2024 10:25

You can help it - get up and see if there’s anyone to chat to - you can improve your mood.
Maybe they’ll allow you to go for a walk in the hospital grounds - it’s a lovely day and soon you’ll have a new baby to take home.

MattyB1 · 11/05/2024 11:03

Why would it be a wasted week of your partner’s paternity? He won’t start paternity leave until the baby is actually born.

sunflowrsngunpowdr · 11/05/2024 11:22

When this is all over / complain about that dr. They are supposed to give you privacy to remove your clothes, she shouldn't have done that.

relly1 · 11/05/2024 14:25

kiwiane · 11/05/2024 10:25

You can help it - get up and see if there’s anyone to chat to - you can improve your mood.
Maybe they’ll allow you to go for a walk in the hospital grounds - it’s a lovely day and soon you’ll have a new baby to take home.

I'm not in hospital.

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relly1 · 11/05/2024 14:26

MattyB1 · 11/05/2024 11:03

Why would it be a wasted week of your partner’s paternity? He won’t start paternity leave until the baby is actually born.

His paternity starts from Monday as I was supposed to be induced Friday then today as they cancelled twice.

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relly1 · 11/05/2024 14:26

sunflowrsngunpowdr · 11/05/2024 11:22

When this is all over / complain about that dr. They are supposed to give you privacy to remove your clothes, she shouldn't have done that.

I know I've already complained as I asked if I could just take my pad off to show her she said " no it's too long jut take your pants down here and nickers and I can see.. I felt very uncomfortable

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relly1 · 11/05/2024 14:31

kiwiane · 11/05/2024 10:25

You can help it - get up and see if there’s anyone to chat to - you can improve your mood.
Maybe they’ll allow you to go for a walk in the hospital grounds - it’s a lovely day and soon you’ll have a new baby to take home.

I'm sorry I don't want to come across as rude but telling someone to improve there moody with mental health isn't as easy as you think , although I'm having a picnic with my children and they're most definitely making me feel better it's just not something I can switch off even though I would seriously love too x

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elliejjtiny · 11/05/2024 15:09

I'm so sorry. I've been there with leaking waters. They lecture you on how important it is to be induced early and then there isn't space so you have to wait. It's horrible and scary. No advice but I hope you are able to be induced soon.

MattyB1 · 11/05/2024 16:06

relly1 · 11/05/2024 14:26

His paternity starts from Monday as I was supposed to be induced Friday then today as they cancelled twice.

Yes but the date isn’t fixed - if you end up delivering later then paternity leave will start later. So he won’t miss out!

relly1 · 11/05/2024 16:49

@MattyB1 I don't think I explained right. If his paternity doesn't start he will have to go to work till I actually get a induction he hasn't got no holidays left for this month to take therfor his paternity needed to start on the day I was told I was getting induced. I was only advised this by a midwife there or I wouldn't have started it. He can't take time off unpaid as he's the main person to pay bills and he's lost a lot of wage due to me being in and out of hospital.

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relly1 · 11/05/2024 16:50

@MattyB1 so for instance if I don't get an induction tommorow or Monday they will expect him to go into work Monday as he has no holidays left he's only been at the work 6 month so he is still in the probation stage , I cannot take my children to school as I cannot walk due to the doctors telling me not too as it hurt.

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