Announced on social media & now worried

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I had a private scan so we decided to announce, at a couple of days before 12 weeks. NHS one isn’t until next week. It felt like the easiest way to tell everyone including relatives that live abroad.

Little bit concerned now that we let excitement take over, and scared something could go wrong between now and next week (no idea how we’d tell people if it did).

Statistically, things are likely to be fine surely? Baby was measuring perfectly and their heart was beating, they were very active too. Do people say 12 weeks because that’s usually the first time they’ve seen baby on a screen?

Thanks

Congratulations on your pregnancy. People say 12 weeks because usually it's after they've had a scan and the risk of miscarriage drops after the 1st trimester. Its great that your baby is looking healthy. I hope your family and friends were excited for you.

Sadly I do know a couple of people who lost babies in the 2nd trimester after they had already announced. They shared a post on Facebook saying their baby had sadly died and they were given a huge amount of support. One friend actually said it was easier that people knew rather than feeling their baby never existed and they could then talk about it openly. Baby Loss doesn't need to be a secret.

I honestly hope nothing happens to your baby but I'm sure your friends and family would want to support you in every possible eventuality.

Congrats! You can't do anything about it now except keep fingers crossed that it all does go well. Its something to consider if there is a next time though, but really a personal decision whether to announce early or not.

I didn't, and very glade I chose not to, because despite seeing a heart beat in 2 pregnancies, things didn't work out. Best of luck though.

Hey OP. I’m 40 in August and currently 29+4, pregnant with my first baby. I told people as soon as I found out at 2-3 weeks. I was too excited. Whatever is going to happen will happen, telling people early or holding out won’t change things. I know it’s hard, my anxiety has been awful since I’ve been pregnant, worrying about every single thing and I’ve had a rough pregnancy due to my age and being high risk but I can’t fault the way I’ve been treated. I’m sure everything will be fine and congratulations! Good luck x

You really should be fine so I'd try not to give it anymore thought.

Congratulations.

Everything is in your favour for things to be fine. The timing could easily have been yout NHS scan. Try to relax and enjoy this exciting time.

To be honest, although I understand why people wait til 12 weeks, I didn't. I always thought that we would want people's love and support if something went wrong, and it would be much harder to share both bits of news at once. For me, when things did go wrong, I was so glad people knew.

I’ve never kept a pregnancy secret and all 3 of my pregnancies I’ve told people at 5 weeks (even with my loss) before we had any scans etc. Personally I found it easier when others knew. We had a scan at 9 weeks this time so was even more open after that. I was a bit apprehensive to do it before 12 weeks but all has been well and I’m now 22+6. The odds of anything happening once a heartbeat has been found and baby is measuring on track is slim, but I understand the anxiety. Best of wishes for the rest of your pregnancy

There’s no guaranteed safe point of pregnancy. I told early with my 1st pregnancy which ended in Mc, no regrets, and I did the same with my current pregnancy. But I’d never post on social media, I only told directly.

I announced after 12 week scan both times, the likelihood of anything going wrong does drop a lot after that point.