It had always been a bit of a given that my second pregnancy would end in an elective c section.
My first child was 10 days late, loooong labour, c section which wasn't really an emergency it was more just her head was at the wrong angle so she just wasn't moving down but she wasn't in distress, but after she was out I lost a fair amount of blood and they were very close to giving me a hysterectomy because my womb had lost all muscle tone. As much as this sounds traumatic I actually am not that traumatised by it, my DH was and said it was the worst thing he'd ever seen and never wants to see me in that position again and i 100% think it was worse for him to watch. I was breastfeeding my dd on the way out of theatre and was feeling fine once all closed up. It was a rough 2 weeks of recovery but then all ok!
So for my DH, an elective c section is obviously his preference but he's said if I'm really keen on pursuing a natural birth then he'd obviously be on board. The recovery of a c section is also going to be harder with a 3 year old too.
I just don't really know what to do, my ideal situation which I don't think would happen on the NHS would be have a section booked for when I'm a week late and if a natural birth happens before that then great, but if it doesn't then I at least have that and don't have to have a sweep or induction etc. I also would have a cut off time agreed with the midwives as to when to call it quits on a labour that was becoming too long to avoid a situation close to what happened last time
What would you do in my position? Just feeling really conflicted at the moment!