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Boyfriend is out drinking and doing drugs

11 replies

Caselo · 27/04/2024 09:22

Good morning all,

Need some advice on the topic of my boyfriend. My boyfriend has always had a problem with drinking... He cannot handle it and every time he has alcohol especially with this certain group of friends he makes stupid choices. I am 39 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend had actually cut out drinking all together but then it started again about 2 months ago when he went to a boxing match and got persuaded by other people around him (he is 32 years old so you would've thought he could just say no as he is a grown man) Anywho, since then he has been drinking nearly every single weekend and I found out last weekend that he had been sniffing cocaine while out at the local pub with his friends. Baring in mind I am 39 weeks pregnant and he is supposed to be driving me to then hospital. We had an argument that night and things were then spoke about the next day and he said he wouldnt do it again... So last night he tells me he is popping to see one of his friends for an hour. To which I asked him not to drink as I'm in early labour and need to rely on him... I was at my mum and dads at this point so I trusted that he wouldn't because of what happened the previous weekend. I come home to find myself stood outside with no key to get in as he had the key and told me he would be home before me so I didn't need one. I had to then go to the local pub and turns out he was drunk out of his mind and thought there was nothing wrong with his actions... I then made him come home with me and because I was stressing all night and angry my contractions have now slowed right down and my he is mentally draining me...

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WetBandits · 27/04/2024 09:23

OP he sounds dreadful. What is he adding to your life, and your imminent baby’s life?

SittingBackAndWatchingTheClowns · 27/04/2024 09:26

I'm sorry to say, but he's no good now and he will be even less use to you and the baby. Could you stay with your parents when the baby is born? Or your mum stay with you to help out? I don't think this bloke will help you in any way.

TrumpetOfTheMatriarchy · 27/04/2024 09:30

Do you and your baby a favour and get rid now. It will save you so much angst going forward. He has shown you his priorities and that will not change. Look at what he is happy to risk. It will not get better. Leave and don't look back.

TheSnowyOwl · 27/04/2024 09:32

Presumably you have ended the relationship?

Olika · 27/04/2024 09:35

Just break up with him and be a single mum. You cannot have a newborn (or any age kid) with someone like him around. He is not going to help you or care about to support you with all that comes with having a baby.

determinedtomakethiswork · 27/04/2024 09:39

He sounds appalling. You would be far better off on your own than with him.

Will you able to stay with your mum and dad after the baby is born?

BrendaSmall · 27/04/2024 09:39

Why get pregnant with someone who has a drink problem in the beginning??
you should have left him the first time he went back to drink and taking drugs!
Dont have him in your childs life

PTSDBarbiegirl · 27/04/2024 09:44

Unfortunately he is very very unlikely to ever change and will continue to take risks. Good luck with the baby, perhaps it will be the bolt of lightening he needs. Consider how you feel in 3 weeks and how he supports you both.

Caselo · 27/04/2024 09:59

@BrendaSmall Unfortunately Brenda I did not know this, he isn't an alcoholic just cannot handle the drink. I'm also not one to abort a child just because of someone's poor choices in life.

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PeggyLee123 · 27/04/2024 10:46

if you have the option of staying with your parents DO IT.

What he is doing is selfish, immature, dangerous behavoiur.

I am in my third tremester and i feel quite vunerable at the moment and having a few problems with my partner but not on this level.

Girl, you deserve BETTER.

Stay with your parents if you can and see if he steps up.

Rocknrolla21 · 27/04/2024 10:53

I’m not sure why you made him come home when he was like this. I’d have left him to it, gone home and asked your parents and friends for support. Is finding a different birthing partner an option. Someone under the influence or on a come down on drugs is not suitable. And tbh I wouldn’t even want him there if I was you. He’s made his choice, drugs are more important than you and the baby

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