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is this normal to be feeling this way?

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redddssak · 26/04/2024 06:00

im in my last trimester close to giving birth now, I live with a family member who isn't the most hygienic, doesn't care about anything to be honest but herself, it wont be for long as in about 5 months im moving out I absolutely HATE my living situation

I have family like mum and siblings, but they only care about the baby and not me, always saying can we come to the hospital when u give birth erm no ive said no 100 times,
they all aren't hygienic, my siblings are younger and constantly going to clubs etc but keep nagging me about meeting the baby when shes born, one of them is constantly sick with a cold or flu etc
is it bad I dont want them around her at all, I dont even want anyone holding my baby but me, I wish I lived alone so badly
my main concern is is this normal, like I just want to be alone with her for the first few months even though wont be possible, because I feel like I cant keep the baby safe if people hold her and wont listen to me if I say dont kiss her etc
as all I hear is "back in my day we could kiss babys no one said anything etc"

im petrified shell get sick off other people, I want to keep her away from everyone but my family 100% wont respect that or theyll be offended, not that I really care as when I can move I wont be talking to them theyre all just the type of people who are there for what they can get from you, my mother will be my birth partner, even though were not very close but I think its better than being alone

I dont even know what I want out of this just a rant maybe I feel quite fed up, worried I cant keep my baby safe once shes born, im constantly judged about choosing to try breastfeed, how ill raise her, they always making judgements on my weight im a size 10.... put me down constantly, talking about me behind my back, I dont think they even know im going to cut. them off simply how theyve treated me this pregnancy its awful to be honest.. most lonely time in my life to be honest as I also have no friends

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Josette77 · 26/04/2024 06:13

How old are you op? Is the father around?

You sound very lonely. 💐

redddssak · 26/04/2024 06:17

Josette77 · 26/04/2024 06:13

How old are you op? Is the father around?

You sound very lonely. 💐

im 25, and we are engaged but he doesn't live in this country I got pregnant while visiting him in his country and nothing can be done about him coming here until the baby is born unfortunately

I am lonely to be honest, I knew this was going to be hard but i like being alone I hate being around people even my family, I only like being around my partner

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redddssak · 26/04/2024 06:19

I could've stayed in his country and gave birth there etc, but honestly I think it was safer to give brith in uk, even though mentally it would've been 1000% better for me I needed to think about what was safest for the baby,
its really hard going through this without him

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Todaywasbetter · 26/04/2024 06:57

It sounds awful, but you can’t leave now so maybe consider a tiny escape. Find a mother and baby group that you could attend weekly until the birth and onwards. you’ll make some new friends who are in exactly your position and you’ll have some information back up when your old-fashioned family start having a go. Good luck. Search for a group today.

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