Hiding pregnancy on family holiday

[ChampagneProblems01]

Hi all,

I'm 5 weeks pregnant and me and my partner are due to be going on holiday with family in the next couple of weeks. We're not ready to tell them yet and need to think of ways to hide the pregnancy while we're away.

My main concern is they've planned a couple of adrenaline fuelled activities that aren't safe for pregnant women. I'm not sure how to get out of these without raising suspicions. I still want to go for the rest of the holiday so I can't really fake being ill.

Has anyone got any suggestions?

I dont think you can unfortunately
No booze, no activities, you may be tired or sick.
Unless they are a bit thick they will probably work it out

@popodcastrunner caving and zip lining. I looked up the places we're going to and both said not to do it if you're pregnant.

You may not be up to the activities, but if you are, what's not suitable for pregnant women?

Just tell them and then sit out what you need to. I was dog sick at that stage, no hiding it

I'd probably just tell them, or let them suspect....

A diplomatic intermittent case of the runs? Dunno what caused it, had it all week on and off.....

you slipped fell with arm outstretched and you damaged /twisted shoulder its a bit inflamed, but not too sore now, doctor said its ok just take it easy for 2 weeks , you have to take anti-inflammatories so cant drink , obviously can't do anything like zip lining as it could jar it or caving as it could make it worse but really anything else you can do - just make sure the hubby carries the heavy luggage and make sure its your non dominant arm side

I’d just tell them. Easiest solution.

@podcapodcastrunner I've already told them I'm up for them before finding out I'm pregnant so it will look a bit odd if I change my mind

Would caving and zip lining both involve a harness / helmet? You might be able to conjure up a reason for the equipment being uncomfortable (like a bruise where the harness would tighten, or a headache) without needing to seem generally unwell.

Although if you have morning sickness, a general migraine / stomach upset be decent excuse to have throughout the holiday...

I'd just say I'm damn right shattered from work and can't be bothered with the activities I want to chill out and watch/relax elsewhere

Even without the activities you're really going to struggle to hide it, its tiredness like nothing else. Wouldn't you tell them if you had a loss? I'm 8 weeks with dc4 and have told parents and a couple of friends I would tell if the worst happens

Would you usually have a glass of wine with them? I think it will be very hard, tbh. I found it more stressful to hide, so we told close family early on.

Why don't you want to just tell them? They're going to guess anyway.

Just tell them. You'll spend your holiday acting like an undercover spy and telling ridiculous porkies which will be horrible. After all that they will work it out anyway.

Can you say you have a neck or back injury? These sorts of these will also stop you doing the adrenaline activities. Some painkillers should be avoided with alcohol so that could work too?

Will you be too early for an early private scan? If not, I'd have a scan before the holiday, tell them on hols under pain of death that they are not to announce it on FB, tell a mate/aunt/best friend and jinx your pregnancy.

or fake a back injury. Bring some Pregnacare tablets in a pill box that will look like mega strength painkillers that you can't drink with. That will do caving, zip lining and the rest. Bound to get spotted at some point though doing something you shouldn't.

You could claim it's sciatica. It comes and goes so you don't have to remember to act consistently. You definitely couldn't risk anything like zip lining or caving, and the painkillers could interact with alcohol (sting anti inflammatory lies irritate the stomach lining and alcohol can make that worse, and mean you throw up).

And it's a good excuse if you're exhausted too.

I honestly wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy the holiday trying to keep up a lie that in a few weeks they'll know about anyway. Lies about why you can't drink, can't do activities, feel shattered, vomit every morning, can't stand the smell of x, y and z, why you can't eat a,b and c. And then you'll be telling them in less than a month anyway.

This

Just tell them. Honestly. Be waited on hand and foot!