Not feeling very pregnant...

[Skimty]

I'm sure this is common with second, third and so on pregnancies but I just wanted any support, similar stories etc.

I'm 15 weeks with my second baby and I still don't feel pregnant. We've only told close family and friends and I can't really be bothered to tell other people. My friend who is about 24 weeks has been very excited all the time whereas I feel quite non-plussed. I don't like talking about it and I sometimes even forget that I am. I even found the 12 week scan boring.

I had a lot of bleeding in the first trimester and I was sure that I has lost the baby. As it is I can't shake this feeling that everything's going to go wrong, that there's something wrong with the baby. I think I can fell it moving, though.

Will it get better when I get a bump etc? I'm at the fat stage at the moment!

All the way through pg3 i just kept thinking 'omg what on earth have we done'! All lovely, maternal feelings appeared as normal during labour and delivery! With pg4 i didnt feel pregnant, had no sickness or anything whereas first 3 times i was constantly sick and tired. I was convinced something was wrong with baby - even when hospital said baby was fine from scans, i just couldnt believe it as i felt so different. Once dc4 arrived i was just as ecstatic as the other times.

That's all I'm really worried about - I don't want my apathy (for want of a better word) to affect how I feel about the baby.

Think you will feel different once you have a 'proper bump'. I also think its different being pg 2nd time round and most of your time is taken up with 1st child and you don't have as much time to bond with bump!

I think that's true as well. People are less precious around you as well.

I'm starting antenatal yoga next week so hopefully that will give me one evening just to think about this pregnancy.

It's actually done me some good just writing it down. With all the people trying for babies I feel really churlish feeling this way.

Skimty - there is a good thread something like can anyone say they are honestly not as excited about their second pregnancy as they were with their first (or the like). A lot of people feel the same. I am very similar although I did enjoy my scan. Perhaps it is just a protection mechanism if you thought you were going to lose the baby. I keep feeling the same, that it will all go wrong, can't wait to feel proper confident movements and equally am fed up feeling just fat! (Also 15w). Come onto the due in Sept thread and try to build up some enthusiasm that way

i had my 13 week scan yesterday and was expecting them to tell me there was nothing there! even now i still find it hard to fathom i will have a baby come October. i also cannot get motivated with this one, i suppose because i only had my ds 13 months ago so it is still in my head how awful pregnancy adn labour is and all those sleep deprived nights but i guess that once the little fellow is here it will change!

Thank you for your support

It's reassuring that other people are feeling the same as me (although I'd wish none of us felt it IYSWIM)