Self Pity Alert - feel free to ignore

[uselessmumtobe]

I am now 32 wks pg with 1st child & have lost all perspective. The house is filling up with baby stuff, I'm looking like I've swallowed a beachball & everything is moving way too fast. Am starting to feel really angry & tearful for no reason and honestly have moments where I think I've made the biggest mistake of my life. Sometimes, when I can't sleep or am particularly irritable, I really wish it was all over, one way or the other, which makes me feel terrible. I know how lucky I am & how other people suffer and I do honestly really want this baby and can't believe how negative my thoughts are sometimes. I have had the easiest pregnancy ever and have NOTHING to complain about, so why am I being such a selfish cow? I've only just started to feel like this over the last few days. Please
a) tell me its the hormones, or
b) give me a slap & tell me to get a grip

only 26 weeks pregnant with my first but i think its normal to feel like you do. I've had some horrible self pitying thoughts that have shocked me. Hope someone wiser comes along to help in a minute but wanted to respond.

It is the hormones.

Even the "easiest" pregnancy can be bloody hard work. Can you talk to your partner about your feelings? I felt like this sometimes, for me it was about loss of control.

Hang on in there, it will get better.

Awww - it really is hormones.Up one day, down the next, mad the other...
It's a huge change and it's scary and exciting all at the same time. Don't be too hard on yourself. Easy to say but just go with the flow and remember if you are feeling really anxious - not to panic - that it really is hormones and perfectly natural!!

Oh poor you mumtobe (not going to put the "useless" bit of your nickname as I bet you're not!) - and mummywannabe too- I agree with Mum1369 and constance, I would stake my house on this being your hormones.

Pregnancy is a funny old time full of contradictions- you're "supposed" to feel amazing and serene but there are so many physical, emotional and practical changes going on around you that if you didn't panic a bit about what's to come there would probably be more cause for concern.

Be kind to yourself and don't beat yourself up if you have down days- you're perfectly entitled to and the baby will never know. You will still be you after the baby is born, your dp will still be the same dp, yes things will be different in your lives but YOU CAN DO IT.

If it's any consolation I am 26 weeks pg and have days like this too, and this is my second so you'd think I'd know the drill by now! But I think it's especially scary the first time round so you definitely have good reason to feel a bit apprehensive sometimes.

Now I'd suggest going run a nice warm bath or indulging in a naughty foody treat and practice the being kind to yourself bit x

I remember feeling like that, quite early on when i was about 12/14 weeks. I lost my first pregnancy (missed miscarriage which took weeks to sort out) so when i'd safely got through the first three months of my 2nd pregnancy and everyone was saying 'oh i bet you're so relieved!' i was actually starting to panic and think this is it, it's really happening and i'm going to be crap at it....!

Blame your hormones and the general 'oh my god!' of the whole thing and eat lots of chocolate - Good Mood Food....

hang on in there...and I'd follow pollyblue's advice re-chocolate

All your feelings are perfectly normal, I am 27 weeks PG with number 4 and get day where it all feels to much!!

I was the most selfish woman around but the best thing I ever did was to have my son..its such a moving ..mind-blowing experience you won't regret it. Good luck and let the hormones flow!! XX

tis the hormones. If it carries on or get worse go and see your MW as it could be prenatal depression

I had the same feelings off and on and at 40 weeks now I can tell you it comes and goes, it is my first and think the life changing event that is happening has moments of this is real and then it does not feel real. .. hang on in there you will have your little one soon enough and it will all be relative! I know I am saying nothing new just you are not alone really..
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