I'm 12 weeks pregnant, IVF baby, long time coming 🙂 DD is 5 and has been desperate for a sibling for years. We're so excited to tell her but just can't figure out when, and how. It'll be a Big Deal to her, it'll be the best day of her life literally. I have a friend who's the same weeks as me and has told her 2 year old and he doesn't really understand/care, I'm a bit jealous of those low stakes! Everyone else in our lives already know pretty much, but I'm very concerned about protecting DD's feelings. I can't stand the thought of getting her hopes up and then something goes wrong. If she was much younger I would wait till the 20 week scan but she's old enough that she will have noticed something before then. Next week is the 12 week scan but I don't know whether to tell her after that, or wait a bit longer for the trisomy results, or till 16 weeks till we have a gender scan and even more reassurance...I just don't know. I also have a cute idea of buying her a t-shirt that says big sister and a babygrow that says little sister/brother, I would love to tell her by doing that, but then I have a horrible thought that something awful could be found at 20 weeks and on top of the heartache she'd be left with those items 😞 and maybe we should tell her earlier in a more low-key way. What is the best way of handling this?
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WeightoftheWorld ·
17/04/2024 11:34
SErunner · 17/04/2024 11:26
Re other people telling her - just tell them not to surely?!
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