Name change on this one. Apologies for long rambling post
On Friday evening I suddenly realised I was (probably) overdue my period. I'd been feeling cramps a few days before but nothing came from it. Annoyingly I didn't track my period last month but we've managed to figure out I was definitely having a heavy day (day 2 or 3) on the 14th March. We have two DS (3 and 6m) and have been deliberating recently on whether to have a third. I am still very for this, DP is now much more reluctant after a very clingy second baby and a couple of house purchases falling through nearly at the end (we're in a 2 bed flat). Anyway.
We agreed to take a test on Monday if period still hasn't arrived. Well we get to Sunday and I haven't been able to stop thinking about it so I told DP I wanted to take one. I did and lo and behold there are two lines. Cue huge shock on both of our parts. DP had a family function that wasn't very child friendly so we spent the day apart and had sex that night. First thing in the morning I went for a wee and wiped and there was blood. I was suddenly transported back to my last pregnancy where I spotted throughout, often when I would have been due my period and every time we had sex without fail. However this time the next wee there was more spotting and then bright red blood as Monday went on, and I'm still bleeding now. It's like my period but just ever so slightly different - lots of teeny clots and stringy mucus. I'm cramping and achy, and sadly believe I'm having a chemical pregnancy.
So for the advice
- Do I need to inform my gp or do I just carry on as normal?
- I assume there's no chance of this pregnancy still being ok.. do I dare to take another test or is this just silly?
- How do I come to terms with this? I'd barely had a minute to acknowledge I was pregnant (but did and had already been daydreaming about my brood of 3) but feels almost as though I don't deserve to even call this a miscarriage? If I'd have just waited until Monday to do the test I would have been bleeding and been none the wiser
Sadly this seems to have confirmed I'm definitely still wanting another and DPs reaction has gone from shocked to ok we'll deal with this if this is our plan to oh wow maybe it wasn't supposed to be to quite fine in 24 hours. I am obviously not ok. I haven't had more than two minutes to process it, and don't even know how to. Honestly I'm just waffling at this stage but I just feel confused and alone and I needed someone to talk to. Impressed if you made it this far