can i just write this down? need hugs

[eleanorsmum]

i'm currently having a threatened miscarriage. am trembling writing this. brown blood after internal scan weds, little bit thurs, lots fri with clots. spoke to ooh doc sadi to rest up over weeekend, scan monday. if worse call back. worse sat, red blood and more litte clots, phones ooh doc told to go to a&e. went got transfered to ward and saw consultant. can't do anyting till monday. internal scan not available. basically tough luck if you bleed at the weekend beofre 12 weeks! am not impressed with royal berks at mo. but am trying to get through today.

Em I,m really sorry. m/c is so heartbreaking. thinking about you. xxx

thanks for messages. just had huge bunch of flowers from my uncle (more like my dad) and set us both off again.

a good friend suggested a box to keep 'it's' things in, which we like the idea of. going out tom to get one. will write a few things down for it. don't like calling it 'it', am i wierd to give it a gender neutral name.

dh is being amazing, crying with me, hugging me and just being a star. just to top it off our little girl has chicken pox and needs extra mummy attention. we are so blessed to have her, she's amazing.

So sorry to hear your news em I had a very similar experience 2 years ago, at the Royal Berks. Started bleeding on the Thursday, scanned on Friday, all was fine, then worse bleeding on saturday, went to ooh GP (based at the hospital) but couldnt scan until monday morning. Booked in for monday morning, but in fact lost it on the sunday evening. Awful, awful experience and I can aboslutely relate to how you are feeling. I will keep you in my thoughts.

ps concevied DD 6 months later and she is now 8.5 months. But I still do think of that babe often, but in a calm way. And I tell myself I wouldnt have my DD if I had the other one, and as with any mum, I wouldnt change my DD for the world! So pleased your lovely DH is being a star, and you have your wonderful (albeit spotty!) DD too. Keep crying with each other, and looking after each other.xxx

Em, so sorry to hear this

Take care of yourselves

So sad for you. Use mumsnet to post when you are feeling down, it helps to talk through the feelings. I am only just at the stage where I'd also like to commemorate my 2 mcs. Any other ideas other than trees/plants. I am really crap at gardening and feel I'd never forgive myself if I didn't look after them.

Em, cry and cry and cry if it helps. I agree with you, when we lost ours at 9 weeks last May I wanted to know what "it" was - something to identify it. It is still my baby, and I think about the baby often. Your DH sounds lovely, and hug that daughter of yours. She will help immensely. Lots of hugs

EM - nothing wrong at all with thinking of a name. A lot of people on here had nicknames for their unborn babies.
I know what you mean re dd too - my first thought after my first mc was "thank God I have dd" she was all the more precious to us.
Wishing you lots of spotty cuddles tonight