Binge drank 5 weeks pregnant, absolutely terrified

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I am feeling so stupid right now. My husband and I were trying to conceive but he had done an at-home sperm test which indicated low sperm count, so we had booked into a fertility clinic and I had assumed it wouldn't happen naturally. Day 27 of my cycle I start bleeding and have all the period symptoms and a negative test. Next day it's Easter weekend and I binge drank on the Friday night, I'm talking 15 drinks (maybe more). Next day had a Bloody Mary and a glass of wine with dinner.
When my period still hadn't arrived on the Monday I did another test which was positive. So I would have been 4+1/2 when I was drinking heavily. I've spent the whole week not sleeping and obsessively googling. I've learned that 4 weeks gastrulation starts, it's the most important stage of embryonic development and issues at this stage can result in all sorts of awful things.
I don't know what I'm looking for really, I'm just in mental agony and suppose I wonder if anyone can offer any reassurance? I'm not a scientist so I'm interpreting all these things myself and getting myself into such a state. At this point I am so convinced I've harmed the embryo that I am considering termination.

Most people don't know they're pregnant at this stage. Tiny little balls of cells are very resilient. I can understand your anxiety but your baby will be fine.

Foetal alcohol syndrome is anecdotally only seen in babies where women are drinking an insane amount every day (eg a bottle of vodka) but this is hard to prove empirically because obviousness it's unethical to test on pregnant women.

Lots of women have drank, taken medication and done drugs, their babies have been fine.

At 4 weeks your embryo was living off the yolk sac for nutrition not you. This starts kicking in week 5-6 which is why morning sickness tends to start around week 6.

I also suspect you might be further behind than to think and the bleeding could have been implantation bleeding then a positive test a few days later makes sense with the negative test.

Breathe your hormones will be going crazy, practice some breathing techniques to calm
yourself (I find I’m super anxious and like this in the first few weeks too bloody hormones)

Baby wasn't attached to your blood stream at that stage, don't worry

It won’t be connected to your blood supply yet so you’ll be fine.

I did similar to you at the same stage and my daughter is now 5 and absolutely fine. Congratulations OP 🥰

It'll be fine, i had a session right before finding out i was pregnant with my now 15yo.

It's still a ball of cells, not attached to your bloody stream through a placenta yet.

You’re fine. As is baby.

Pretty much every person I know who has got pregnant has done this, apart from those trying to get ivf. I went on a hen do just before I tested and realised I was pregnant. We'd only been not trying not to for that month. Another friend got absolutely smashed at my hen do, then later found out she was pregnant. Another friend had been trying for years, was about to start ivf so thought what the hell. She later found out she was pregnant. I also had a friend who I went out with for a night out. She'd only not been using protection for a month and she later found out she was pregnant. Now with twins she calls that her last night of freedom 🤣. So long as you don't carry on doing it everything will be fine.

Absolutely the same scenario with my youngest DD, she is 6ft2 stunningly beautiful and almost certainly a genius

I did exactly the same, got absolutely bladdered and found out 2 days later I was pregnant. He’s 11 and perfect. Your baby will be fine.

I drank almost a bottle of rum the day before I found out I was pregnant. She’s absolutely fine.

That early on, if the baby (basically some cells) is damaged then new cells are made and if they’re too damaged to do that the baby aborts. So don’t worry at all and congratulations!

I did it- two week holiday, came back- wedding party, weekend away, hiking, sunbathing, drinking pretty much every day and very heavily over a three week period. We weren’t trying and I had no idea, until I couldn’t do my jeans up. I had what I thought was my usual period too- so no reason to suspect.
Saw G.P who said, baby will be absolutely fine.

Edited- she is more than fine and now 7. 😊

Thank you so much everyone. I'm sure I'm probably full of hormones and the sleepless nights/week-long anxiety attack hasn't helped my mental state, but you've all been so nice I've burst into floods of tears 😭

Congratulations on your pregnancy
OP, your baby will be fine.

I did something similar it's ok xxx she's fine xxx

Natural to worry OP, but so many healthy babies are conceived when parents have had a drink try not to worry.

congratulations! Your baby will be fine honestly. I didn’t know I was pregnant with my first until I was 6 weeks and drank up until I found out. She’s nearly 9 now and is perfectly fine.

And welcome to the world of parenting where you constantly worry now for the next 80 years (or so I’ve been told) 🤣😂

Don’t worry lovely, I got knocked up some time between Christmas & New Year - pretty sure I was a walking wine bottle at that point!

@Georgethecat1 ah ha ha. Absolutely spot in.