Help with changing jobs

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Please be kind.

we are a same sex couple expanding our family through surrogacy (another person is carrying the baby).

my partner has been offered a better job that she wants to take. However legally speaking we don’t want to lose the right to share parental leave and we have no idea how this works.
A few questions:

1- is it worth sharing upon job offer im the next week or so what we are going through? It’s been less than a month from transfer so anything can happen and we don’t want to overshare.

2- we’ll need some flexibility to fly to another country for the baby. How would you approach this with her employer? I don’t think they can say no to be there for the birth.

3- my partner is intending to take 3 months and I’d take the rest. Maybe this is not so bad for the new employee after all?

4- anything I should think of and am not?

thanks

All of this will depend on their policy - they should have one, I think surrogacy would usually be included under the adoption terms. You could contact their HR department and request their maternity/paternity policy and avoid disclosing in full to your new employer (assuming it's a big enough company they have a department)!

Changing jobs at this point could invalidate eligibility for any paid leave - many companies require a certain length of employment before going off. I think it could also invalidate entiltlement to shared parental leave - there will be details on the government website.

Personally I wouldn't disclose this early. It's pretty standard for staff not to disclose until they are 12 weeks ish, but if you feel comfortable doing so then of course do.

Congratulations on your news though, and wishing you well. It will all work out for the best in the end!

Sorry, should have read 'a lot' not 'all'!