Maybe pregnant but partner doesn’t want to keep it

[Cutekitty]

What would you do in my situation. I think I might be pregnant but it’s too early to test… my partner has told me he doesn’t want to keep it if I am. What should I do? I don’t want to ruin my relationship as it’s been a year and 5 months with him but I also if I am pregnant don’t want to lose my baby. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks

Keep the baby. I don't think any man is worth aborting a baby you want for tbh.

i would just think of it like this-

if you abort the baby and stay together for now, how will you feel a year down the line if you split up and you now have the knowledge you aborted when you didn’t want to and no longer have the baby. Or if you keep the baby and he leaves you will you love the baby so much that it won’t even bother you anymore because you couldn’t imagine not having your baby in favour of him?

no one can tell you what to do but any guy who would pressure you into deciding one way or the other against your wishes maybe isn’t worth giving so much up for xx

Are you prepared to raise this child alone? Do you work? Are you financially stable? Do you have a place to live that you can afford on maternity pay? Do you know what your maternity pay is? Do you know the cost of childcare in your area? Can you afford this without any money from the Father? Would you have any family support? These sorts of questions are the ones only you can answer.

Age doesn't really come into this. Basically your relationship is probably over. If you keep it he doesn't want it, if you abort you will resent him. Did you discuss what would happen if you did become pregnant? Has that changed now that there is a possibility you could be pregnant?

It is your body and your decision what you do. Are you in the best position to raise a baby right now until they are in their early 20s? So not just a baby but a toddler, a preschooler etc they are not babies for very long.

Do you want to be a single mother? That's the question you need to ask. Can you afford it? Do you have family support? Is it what you want for you and for your potential child? If it's too early to test then you're barely pregnant at this point. Think with your head, not your heart.

He seems a bit of a waste of space. First find out if You are pregnant or not. I dont think this very unsupportive man is worth staying with.

Even if he was happy about the pregnancy, the truth is that an unplanned pregnancy this early is statistically likely to strain your relationship. You need to be prepared for the likely possibility that the relationship will end and you will end up coparents, not partners.

he expressed his opinion. Now you get to make your decision. It is entirely your decision, just know that you need to be happy with your choice, regardless of what happens to your relationship.

Keep the baby. My husband never wanted children and now he adores his child soo much.
I would say you don't feel right ending a life that has his beautiful genes in it

Was one or both of you using contraception, OP?
Your body, your choice ultimately.

His beautiful genes?

Thanks for all your messages it’s a lot to think about. Will know if a week or two wether I am pregnant and will go from there

thanks

Hope it works out for you, depends on your age and circumstances and how strong you feel about this potential baby . But really consider if you want to co parent with this guy if you split up. He might not want a baby but once it appears and you are doing all the work he will still be involved in some way. Read the many threads on here with women dealing with their ex idiots daily and the hapless dad's messing up their kids. It's a big consideration . You may choose to wait for the right guy before you have kids (and leave this one now if you are not on the same page)

Why do you think you're pregnant given you cant even test for 2 weeks?

You literally posted that you came off the pill three days ago?!

If he doesn't want a baby why are you having unprotected sex?

In the VERY highly unlikely event that you are pregnant after stopping the pill three days ago you wouldn't even know for weeks?

There is so much dysfunction in your posts it's unreal.

Get back on contraception and have a good long think before making any more ridiculous decisions.

It personally wouldn't even be a consideration to terminate a pregnancy in order to keep a man . If you want kids down the line with him then clearly he isn't the man for you if this is his reaction. I was brought up by a single mother and couldn't of been happier or more content 😌

Oh same poster? Oh dear - OP please stop this chaotic thinking. You definitely aren't pregnant but why did you come off the pill if your partner doesn't want a baby?

Does your partner know you came off the pill? If you're not on the same page about babies then you really shouldn't be TTC behind his back. If you deliberately try to get pregnant without his consent or knowledge then be prepared to be a single parent. This is one of those occasions where I feel sorry for the bloke. He's made his views clear. It's irresponsible to go against his wishes. I doubt a pregnancy announcement would make him suddenly keen to start a family with you either.

If I'm wrong and you've both discussed and it was a joint decision to stop using contraception etc then he has to accept his part in things and can't just backtrack at will once a BFP is seen. However, it sounds like you're some way off that regardless. So deep breaths. Wait a couple of weeks and take it from there.

Oh my god - fourth thread now I've seen from the same poster asking the exact same thing.

Are you trying to get pregnant without his knowledge? Does he know you have stopped the pill?

As the product of a woman who came off the pill to get pregnant to make the dad marry her, if what previous posters are saying is true, JUST GROW THE FUCK UP AND STOP IT. My life has not been good due to her actions. It's not a bloody toy. It could be an actual human being. FFS. Come on.

I don’t want to ruin my relationship as it’s been a year and 5 months with him

I've read your other threads and it's highly unlikely you're pregnant but just wanted to say PLEASE don't let this be the only reason you stay with someone.

Agree, and I’m a man!
Your body, your choice.

What happened about the blood test you had at the GP?

If a man doesn't use a condom he doesn't get any say in the matter, he should still use them even if his partner is on the pill, it's nothing to do with not trusting her and everything to do with taking responsibility.