Pregnant at 36 with baby no 6

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Hi all , I have just found out I'm pregnant with baby number 6 , husband is not happy and said we are just starting to get our time back so has mixed feelings about it all . Our kids are 20 , 15 , 13 ,11 and 6 . So they are quite gapped out nicely... our families would not be happy either as they sort of flipped out at baby number 4 and 5 ! I'm just confused about it all really ... as this was totally unplanned and I am currently off work long term sick due to a spinal injury ! Not going to go down well that I can't return in the near future as planned as I'll be having maternity leave instead ! 🙃 my husband works too and hard . Just wondering how others have coped with starting again after 6/7 years especially being slightly older aswell .

Congratulations!

If he didn’t want you to get pregnant why didn’t he get a vasectomy? Ignore the negative Nellie’s, enjoy your baby.

Do you want another baby? What impact will it have on your spinal injury?

the very two questions that I was going to ask.

Husband should have got the snip if he didn't want any more children!

How are you feeling about it OP?x

A vasectomy has been discussed in the past , but we have always got on alright with condoms til now , my injury happened just before xmas on the occasion we have intercourse as you can imagine its not been easy with my medical issues , we have used the same brand condoms as always , so was really shocked to find out we are expecting . My spinal Injury is healing slowly I have a lumbar fracture and several herniated discs , they said it can take upto a year to fully heal with physio and medication to strengthen the surrounding muscles again . I never thought about having another baby if I'm honest, we always anticipated in the next 10 years or so we would be grandparents , not doing school runs still for our own children in little school . It's all very confusing right now , we are limited on space also . Our eldest lives with her partner and we have 3 boys and 1 girl at home . I just didn't imagine being in this position . Condoms have always been a good protection for us for over 6 years now we have had one scare a few years ago but it was exactly that , just a late period due to being stressed in starting a new career .

Baby no 6 and you've got a spinal injury? And your husband is already working really hard. No one needs 6 children. Will you be able to afford another child? How will it impact on the dynamics in your already large family? How will you be able to cope physically once the baby arrives? How will your body cope physically with a pregancy? Your house is already crowded?

I wouldn’t have that baby if I were you.

OP you don't have to carry the pregnancy to term unless you choose to. You have choices. No judgement from me either way. Your body. Best of luck.

I would be worried about how much toll another pregnancy would have on your body with a spine injury. Also babies/ young children force you to hold lots of awkward positions that would be hard in your recovery. It sounds like a lot to go through when you already have 5 children. To me I only have one so it seems like madness! But each to their own.

With so many children, not enough space and a spinal injury, I'd be seriously considering a termination

I’d be getting urgent advice from knowledgeable Drs as a pregnancy could result in paralysis for you.
phone on Monday to ask how incapacitated you will be., if you continue with this pregnancy

My spinal doctor and physiotherapist are going to be the first people I tell about this and of course asking the complications and toll it would have on my body .
I guess reading these replies, I kind of have my answer as to what is best for myself and family .

It won’t be in your existing children’s best interests if you are permanently incapacitated.

this is a hard place to be, but to my mind, existing kids needs come first

Expecting number 6 and our youngest will be 5, we were quite happy to stop at 5 (DH probably more so) but we’re happy and excited about new baby too. Kids seem to be quite positive too. Youngest will have to share a room but doesn’t seem to mind. I can imagine it must be quite hard if DH is being really negative, is he likely to come around to the idea?