Wedding in 3 weeks, then honeymoon straight after. Do I get an early scan?!

[Fingerscrossed88]

Hi everyone,

I am so stuck.

What would you all do in my position.

5 weeks 1 day today , wedding is in 3 weeks and I will be 8 weeks 2 days. I got on my honeymoon the day after for roughly 3 weeks.

Would you wait till you came back for the 12 week scan? Or get an early scan so you know the pregnancy is OK so far?

Loosing my mind trying to decide!

I wouldn’t get the early scan. If you don’t get good news, it will ruin the time you. I got pregnant around the time of my wedding & the pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage. I had an early scan before the wedding & there was no
heartbeat & I was measuring behind where I thought I was, which meant that I enjoyed my wedding much less than I should have. I would just wait and hope for the best. Live in a happy bubble, enjoy your wedding.

I'd wait.

You won't be quite 12 weeks by the time you're back from honeymoon, so that timing looks perfect.

Personally I need the reassurance of an early scan.

Thank you ladies, i appericate the opnions.
In terms of flying do i need to alert a midwife? I'm flying 20+ hours one way and 20+ hours on the way back a couple of weeks after.
So much anexity!!

Flying at that point is fine. No need to alert anyone. If you scan too soon there is a chance that they won’t see much and will worry you further.

If you're anything like me you'll start worrying again the day after a scan anyway so it won't help you to relax during the wedding and honeymoon even if you do have a positive early scan. And if you're anything like me you'll have the early scan anyway despite knowing this

@Pip1402 haha this made me laugh!!! A friend of mine did 1 pregnancy test and then waited till her 12 week scan and I just couldn't believe it. I wish I was that person.

I think I will see how I feel when I hit the 7 week mark, my head tells me to wait it out. Seems like the smartest option but I am someone who tends to have anexity at times!

Are you going somewhere that you could book an early scan abroad? You could get one in the last week of your honeymoon maybe?

Put bluntly, what will be will be. Take supplements, gentle exercise, avoid alcohol, avoid areas with the Zika virus in particular but otherwise just enjoy yourself. Get yourself booked in for your return. First and only scan was 18 weeks when mine were born!

Pip1402 haha this made me laugh!!! A friend of mine did 1 pregnancy test and then waited till her 12 week scan and I just couldn't believe it. I wish I was that person.
Until quite recently that's what everyone had to do. Paying privately for scans wasn't an option ( didn't exist). Just wait until 12 weeks.

Just get an early scan, chances of ongoing pregnancy after seeing a heartbeat are excellent. Everyone should have a scan at 6-7 weeks... many countries it's standard.

In early pregnancy a scan can literally only reassure you for the duration of the actual scan. Once it’s over anything could happen.
I had two early scans and a healthy heartbeat and baby stopped growing at 11 weeks. I didn’t bother having any early scans the next time round. I actually don’t believe all those stats about likelihood of a successful pregnancy after heartbeat seen. I know plenty of people with a similar story to me. I don’t think I’m unusual

I did get an early scan at 7 weeks. I was going abroad to a country I wasn’t too sure what the medical facilities would be like in the worst case scenario. Pregnancy was where it should be, heartbeat detected etc. and I did feel reassured.
As someone else said, the reassurance only lasts for about 24 hours, but it was what I needed to button down, accept that my holiday wasn’t going to be the boozy, food fueled event I’d original planned on when booking, and almost to feel like it was real if that makes sense.
So I guess it’s whatever you feel is best in your circumstances and what the destination is like. If you do get an early scan maybe get it at least a week or two before your wedding so you do have time to process any bad news, but I’m sure that won’t be the case.

I agree. An early scan only tells you things are ok at that moment, it doesn't tell you anything about how well things will go in the coming weeks.

I don't live in the UK and a scan at 6-8 weeks here is standard. I had a scan at 7 weeks and it was very reassuring. It really eased my mind. You want to know it's not ectopic or something seriously wrong. And you can go on your honeymoon knowing everything is ok.

Yes, it's no guarantee. But if it goes well and you hear a heartbeat, chances of things going wrong are very low.

Then again, I'm a control freak and hate the unknown.

My reason to have a scan would be to check it's not an ectopic pregnancy, as you really wouldn't want that to go wrong whilst abroad. As others said, a scan is only reassuring in that moment, it doesn't guarantee or change anything. I hope you aren't travelling somewhere with a Zika risk. but wait until at least 7 weeks to get a scan, as before that it's difficult to be conclusive about the heartbeat, particularly as the number of weeks you think you are is only an estimate.

@Fingerscrossed88 I'm in a similar situation.

My wedding is in 2 weeks. I'm currently 7w3d. I had a scan at 6 weeks due to a big bleed. I thought the pregnancy was over. The gestational sac was seen, but no yolk sac and no fetal pole. The hospital scanned me a week later and found a heartbeat, which was a wonderful surprise as I'd had continued bleeding. I was told I might get a bleed again as there's a subchorionic hematoma so it's good to have the heads up about that.

I've decided to have another scan before our wedding. Our honeymoon to Mauritius was straight after our wedding too. It has been advised I'm given an injection to thin my blood for the flight due to the risk of blood clots (family history of them). However, I'm in the process of booking a cruise instead.

I realise I'm on the extreme end of what could happen, but I truly believe in being as prepared as you can be. I'm sure everything is going to be fine. I'd get a scan at 7 weeks if I were you and make sure you're not going to a zika risk area for your honeymoon. Wishing you all of the best with your wedding and pregnancy.

@1yearplan thank you so much for your response. I am so happy to hear everything is gojng well for you and I am go ahead with a scan.
I hope you have a healthy happy rest or your pregnancy and a wonderful wedding in 2 weeks! Out of interest how are you feeling about hiding it at your wedding? Racking my brain coming up with excuses as to why I'm not drinking etc already!

I'm sure everything is going to be fine for you at the scan. I think I've just had the worst run of luck.
I'm actually eloping to get married, so it's just the two of us. However, one of my close friends got married last summer. She had a wing girl who knew about the pregnancy who swapped out any drinks for her with a glass of nosecco, so it looked like she was drinking. I think the bar staff knew too. Nobody noticed!! She said every time someone offered her a drink she said she'd already got one and then just pointed towards the top table.