Am I overreacting

[YourDaringDog]

So I'm 8 months pregnant and found that my partner of 8 years follows hundreds of women on Instagram, some he doesn't know, some are half naked. I'm not very happy about it yet all he says is they're from before he met me and argues that I'm just insecure. How would you feel?

I wouldn't like that if it were my partner...

I had a similar thing with my now DH back in the earlier days of our relationship. It wasn't as many women but there were comments etc on some of the pics. It was a tough patch in our relationship but it ended up being a really positive growth point for us. He acknowledged that it was no longer appropriate and it was kind of force of habit etc. He actually came off Insta completely (I didn't ask this but he did of his own accord).

I'm sure some would say it's not a big deal etc but that is up to them and the boundaries they are happy with in their relationships. If it makes you uncomfortable and anxious then it's not an overreaction. I think in a case like this, the response you get from your partner is very telling. At the moment it sounds like your guy needs to step up a bit. Especially with you so close to giving birth to his child. He should be doing everything possible to nurture and cherish you.

At the time I was almost ready to break up over it which some would probably think ridiculous but it was a big deal for me and really affected my trust. I couldn't have dreamed at that point how successfully we would move on from it. I absolutely trust DH now (wouldn't have married him otherwise) and have never had any further reasons to worry or feel concerned. I really hope your fella steps up too and one day you can look back with the same 'gosh I can't believe that actually happened'.

Sending a hug and best wishes for the birth etc! 💕

Depends does he just follow them or does he contact them ? Two very different things .

I think my reaction on this would depend on how much he actually uses social media. If he barely logs in, I can see why he hasn't dealt with the follows previously.

I would strongly suggest that he goes through a social media cleanse, as if you can click on his profile and see all these women, so will your child be able to when they are old enough to use his phone.