TW Pregnant after loss. So anxious about another loss. Could the anxiety of this cause another MC?

[Deeoco]

I’ve been trying to remain as calm as I can but have still had the odd moment of feeling really tight chested and anxious that something will go wrong again, testing daily and generally just worrying about it. I’m still sleeping ok (waking up at 4am every day but putting that down to hormone related insomnia!)

Please tell me someone else worried the whole way through the first trimester but their rainbow baby was still ok? I’m only 4+5 but can’t help but feel worried until I see them on a scan at six weeks, despite my darker than dark tests!

Is it really true that nothing I could do will influence the outcome of whether this is a sticky one or not?

Thank you x

These are my tests. Digi is still 2-3 but as to be expected I suppose

There’s nothing you can do but try and be kind to yourself. To be completely realistic you are not going to be able to avoid worrying (I found this advice really unhelpful. “Relax!” “Try not to worry!”) but if you’ve miscarried before it’s absolutely impossible.
I was anxious not just through the first trimester but all the way through to the end and my son was fine. If your miscarriage was fairly recent I think there’s actually evidence that a pregnancy soon following a miscarriage actually has more chance of success if that makes you feel better?
I wish you well and good luck. Do what you can to look after yourself x

Yep me, worried sick for the majority of first tri and due any day now.
It's not going to impact the pregnancy but it's sooooo tough living like that. I'd think less about staying calm (impossible, only adds more worry about worrying...) and more about coping strategies.
Can you get access to any counselling to help process how you are feeling?
The biggest takeaway I had was to accept that worry was inevitable and find ways to live with it instead. For example limiting Google time, planning some fun days out and trying to stop pregnancy taking over every waking moment. Wishing you all the best for your rainbow, it's such a tough ride xx

Hi @Deeoco i just stumbled across your post whilst looking at other baby related posts. Firstly I’m so sorry for your previous loss, it’s a horrible thing to go through. In 2022 I got pregnant and at my 12 week scan was told the baby had stopped growing and had to have the pregnancy surgically removed. It was a really hard and confusing time, I didn’t even know you could miscarry in that way (I presumed you would bleed etc and that’s how you would know you were miscarrying). After 6 months of TTC I got pregnant again and I had all the same worries and fears you have, also woke up at ridiculous times in the morning and didn’t sleep well at all, really didn’t start relaxing a bit more until around about 20ish weeks maybe, but even then I still worried, I think it’s totally natural considering what you’ve been through. I went for quite a few private scans just to try and put my mind at ease. Unless you’ve been through it no one understands how stressful pregnancy after loss can be. But to answer your question, no I don’t think worrying has any impact on your pregnancy, so try not to worry about worrying (easier said than done I know!) as I really do think the outcome is out of your hands. If you feel like you are really struggling remember to speak to your midwife (I know you probably won’t have been allocated one yet) as I’m sure there is support you can get if you feel like you need it. I’m writing this as I lie next to my 4 month old baby girl after just putting her to bed. Sometimes it seemed like it would never happen but I got my rainbow baby and so will you 🌈❤️

I started a thread almost exactly like this. I couldn't let myself believe that it would be a sticky one. Esp as my dates were exactly 12 months on. (Honeymoon/anniversary)
I checked for blood every time I peed until 9 months.
That bubs is now asleep in her bed having fallen asleep in my arms. A beautiful 9 month old bundle of chaos.

The worry is understandable. If you don't trust, you might not get hurt.

Try to relax, be kind to yourself but it isn't going to cause a loss.