Age related fertility & risks female 37 male 41

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İ am a 37 y.o female my husband is 41 we have older children but have decided we would like another ive always worried about my age more than his but after searching was shocked to learn a few things ill attach one inpaticular that has scared me below. Anyone have successful pregnancy birth when male and female age factor was involved be good to hear some encouragement

This frightens me

I’m 35 , hubby is 42
currently 20 weeks with no problems so far
fell pregnant first cycle too

I'm 36 and 26 weeks pregnant took us almost exactly 2 years to convince I was days away from starting ivf when I found out . I would say there is a lot more research coming out about how more often than not it's the sperm that's the problem or low quality while you both need to concentrate on being as healthy as possibly for I'd say at least 3 months prior to trying to conceive somethings that really make a difference and effect sperm and egg quality is :

Caffeine - cut it out or down to one coffee a day
Alcohol - needs to go completely
Diet obviously
Exercise
Plastics anything you can replace with glass or metal do it.

My dad was 53 when I was born. Bit of a late life surprise, but no issues at all.

Hey OP. I’m 39 and my partner is nearly 42. I came off my pill in May 2023 and we have been using protection since. I didn’t come off it to conceive. I fell pregnant in October. I’m now 22+3. Everyone is different but please don’t let these things online put you off. My partners uncle was in his late 60s when he became a Dad again!

Yes sometimes we get caught up in fear esp with so much access these day's to information. So lovely to hear some positive stories hope you all have saf3 healthy deliveries

I'm currently 18+5 - I turned 38 end of Dec and my hubby is 6 years older than me. Unfortunately we did have 3 losses last year and I can't help thinking our ages may have contributed. That said, lots of the women I know who had losses, were younger (and their partners too) when the losses occurred. Similarly, as many on this thread have commented, lots of older couples have perfectly healthy babies. Pregnancy always carries risks and is a bit of a numbers game. Sometimes you are just unlucky. Although I'd have obviously hoped to never go through losses, we've come through the other side, and hopefully we will be getting our rainbow baby this year. It is scary to contemplate potential loss and how you would cope, but there is no point engaging in too much worrying. What will be, will be. If you don't try, you'll never know, and you certainly won't have a baby unless you take that risk.

Ultimately, it's always possible to fuel scary thoughts around all of this, but if you want a baby, you just have to launch into it and hope for the best. And even if the road is a bit rocky, hopefully you will get there.

I do recommend CoQ10 supplement though for helping egg quality. My current pregnancy followed 3 months of taking that and maybe it boosted my eggs a little. Will never know but certainly couldn't have harmed. 🙂 Good luck!

Dh was 47 and I was 37 when we tried to get pregnant. We did have a miscarriage but then the next pregnancy was fine. She’s 3 now. I don’t think the miscarriage was down to him as I’d had several miscarriages in my twenties. I’ve only managed to keep pregnancies when I’ve taken aspirin

Was 34 and partner was 44 when we conceived our first. He’s now a wonderful 3yo.

I'm 37 and my dh is 52. I've just had my 3rd child a few weeks ago. Conceived naturally. (Accidental but loved) She is completely healthy and I had a natural vaginal delivery with no problems.
I did have an NIPT test or whatever its called, when I first found out, just to check for any issues as I was aware risks increase with older parents. .. but it came back clear.

Have you looked at the % risks on a reputable site. They do increase with age but are still tiny.

I conceived ds when I was 44 and ex was 55. Ds is 5'10" and doing his GCSEs this year. All good. I had an easy pregnancy, no nausea, and a natural birth. 😊

There is always a chance things can go wrong no matter what age so be careful to eat healthily, regular gentle exercise, no alcohol and take appropriate vitamins. Good luck

I got pg when I was 40 and DH was 41. We had an NIPT and it showed a high risk of a trisomy 13. We had it confirmed with a CVS test and I had a TFMR. It's a rare condition but definitely had increased risks due to my age and DH's. We have had a healthy child since then who is hitting all her milestones, although she is a toddler and many developmental conditions aren't diagnosed until much older, and there is an increased risk with older fathers. I think if you really want a child you just deal with whatever comes tbh. Never had any miscarriages luckily, but some friends have had many of them at a much younger age (for both of them) so I think some women are just more susceptible regardless of age.

Sorry to hear you had that happen. Yes I know I need to just put fear aside and do what ny heart wants but I suffer unusually irrational fears and anxiety so ita a heightened fear for me when I see the bad and feels so encouraging to see these positive stories thankyou